alaskanneedshelp
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I am glad I found this site and hope I can get some help.
I am divorced and remarried. We both brough one child into the marriage from our previous and they are three days apart at 14. Crazy really. My wife and I admit that we have had rough times and most of the time it is due to dealing with the kids. Either there actions or our not understanding each other in our concerns. We have worked really hard and made big improvments but last year we became seperated. We worked through the issues but my son hates her for it. There is zero respect towards her. I work rotational work 2/2 so when I am gone he stays with his mother. A couple months ago my son decided he wouldnt come home if my wife was there. I tried not to push him and we would go out and do stuff but he always went back to his mothers. This frustrated my wife.
Last time at home My wife and I had a falling out and she moved out. She feels guilty about what my son is doing and doesnt want to be the reason I dont have him. During this time I found out she went out and had a one night stand. It hurts me deep but I feel we can get through this. Only problem is my son knows about it. He is planning on coming home when I get home becasue she is not there. My wife and I are taking it slow so I can heal and we can work everything out before she moves back in, we feel its whats best for the kids.
How do I get my boy to accept here and stay when she comes back? I feel like he is running my life and forcing my decisions. I love him so much but I also love my wife. He already said I chose her over him. I am hoping now that its just us I can talk with him. He is very stubborn though and I really dont know if he will give it a shot. Thats all im asking of him. His mother supports him in whatever he wants to do as long as he stays home, it doesn't help... I am so confused and just need advise
I am divorced and remarried. We both brough one child into the marriage from our previous and they are three days apart at 14. Crazy really. My wife and I admit that we have had rough times and most of the time it is due to dealing with the kids. Either there actions or our not understanding each other in our concerns. We have worked really hard and made big improvments but last year we became seperated. We worked through the issues but my son hates her for it. There is zero respect towards her. I work rotational work 2/2 so when I am gone he stays with his mother. A couple months ago my son decided he wouldnt come home if my wife was there. I tried not to push him and we would go out and do stuff but he always went back to his mothers. This frustrated my wife.
Last time at home My wife and I had a falling out and she moved out. She feels guilty about what my son is doing and doesnt want to be the reason I dont have him. During this time I found out she went out and had a one night stand. It hurts me deep but I feel we can get through this. Only problem is my son knows about it. He is planning on coming home when I get home becasue she is not there. My wife and I are taking it slow so I can heal and we can work everything out before she moves back in, we feel its whats best for the kids.
How do I get my boy to accept here and stay when she comes back? I feel like he is running my life and forcing my decisions. I love him so much but I also love my wife. He already said I chose her over him. I am hoping now that its just us I can talk with him. He is very stubborn though and I really dont know if he will give it a shot. Thats all im asking of him. His mother supports him in whatever he wants to do as long as he stays home, it doesn't help... I am so confused and just need advise