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<blockquote data-quote="witzend" data-source="post: 68772" data-attributes="member: 99"><p>I have to admit, I am glad that many of us are posting about detaching ideas right now. It helps me to stay out of it. Thank god I can speak my mind here.</p><p></p><p>L's Aunt on her dad's side could help her get a job social planning. She's president of a company that does that type of thing for all the best hotels. But she knows L well enough to not offer. </p><p></p><p>I honestly don't think she <em>would</em> listen to any suggestions I might have. While she gets it that husband and I have a nice life, she doesn't get that it's because we work at it. I don't just mean that we have a nice home and vacations and decent cars and good credit. She doesn't respect how hard it is to be happy with myself in spite of all the garbage her dad dished out, and that keeping a good marriage together doesn't happen by chance. </p><p></p><p>She says things that I know come from her dad's mouth. It's patronizing and demeaning. He's got 3 or 4 girlfriends at a time that he is stringing along like an audition to see which one he wants to bring to his 50th birthday bash, and he and L both start talking about how "it's so cute" that husband and I are still affectionate after 23 years. He tells her <em>and</em> me that "other than your (Witzend's) relationship with your (WE's) family, you're <em>way</em> more happy and well adjusted than <em>I</em> (spermdonor) am" Then she repeats it word for word. "My dad really respects you. He said that other than your relationship with your family..." Let me tell you something, even <em>including</em> my relationship with my family I'm way more well adjusted and happy than he is!</p><p></p><p>I swear to God y'all. <em>One day</em> maybe she'll ask for my advice. And that day I'll offer it to her. Until then the best I can do is "set a goal and you'll achieve it"; "you have to be happy with yourself before you can be happy with someone else." All the truisms.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="witzend, post: 68772, member: 99"] I have to admit, I am glad that many of us are posting about detaching ideas right now. It helps me to stay out of it. Thank god I can speak my mind here. L's Aunt on her dad's side could help her get a job social planning. She's president of a company that does that type of thing for all the best hotels. But she knows L well enough to not offer. I honestly don't think she [i]would[/i] listen to any suggestions I might have. While she gets it that husband and I have a nice life, she doesn't get that it's because we work at it. I don't just mean that we have a nice home and vacations and decent cars and good credit. She doesn't respect how hard it is to be happy with myself in spite of all the garbage her dad dished out, and that keeping a good marriage together doesn't happen by chance. She says things that I know come from her dad's mouth. It's patronizing and demeaning. He's got 3 or 4 girlfriends at a time that he is stringing along like an audition to see which one he wants to bring to his 50th birthday bash, and he and L both start talking about how "it's so cute" that husband and I are still affectionate after 23 years. He tells her [i]and[/i] me that "other than your (Witzend's) relationship with your (WE's) family, you're [i]way[/i] more happy and well adjusted than [i]I[/i] (spermdonor) am" Then she repeats it word for word. "My dad really respects you. He said that other than your relationship with your family..." Let me tell you something, even [i]including[/i] my relationship with my family I'm way more well adjusted and happy than he is! I swear to God y'all. [i]One day[/i] maybe she'll ask for my advice. And that day I'll offer it to her. Until then the best I can do is "set a goal and you'll achieve it"; "you have to be happy with yourself before you can be happy with someone else." All the truisms. [/QUOTE]
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