Hello fellow parents, I found this sight when I googled about my 11 year old daughter screaming at myself and her brother every day. My daughter is a sweet, smart, and caring girl. She is pretty introverted, no behavior problems at school, but can be very controlling and mean at home. She only does these things to her family-but she does not care where we are-last night she raised her voice at her brother in a restaurant for my birthday dinner and when I cued her to stop, she yelled “What’s wrong with you?!” We were mortified. She tells me she hates me every day, slams doors-hers is broken now, talks back, and does not take responsibility for her words or behavior. I am sad and exhausted and I feel as if my family is broken. I am a single parent, and the strain we are under is palpable. My 13 year old son is developing anxiety symptoms because I have begun to engage with her more and more. Today in my worst moment I told her I hated her too. I know my daughter does not feel good about herself when she does these things; we talk about fair fighting and boundaries, breathing and calming techniques and cues, but in the moment she just escalates and escalates. I do have her meeting with an art therapist beginning next week at her school, hoping she will benefit from someone to talk to. I guess I’m just hoping to hear what others think. Thanks for listening!