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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 626038" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I meekly suggest that maybe you and husband shouldn't do what bio. mom wants and make her leave work. Then she will have to do something.</p><p></p><p>I think he will struggle even in a special school, but it's worth a try. In my heart of hearts, having lived with one, I do think he has attachment disorder and that medications won't do much for that, but he could be calmed down a bit and could also have something co-morbid. (Disclaimer: I am not a medical person) This just isn't how bipolar is however...it's a mood disorder, not a license to act out in antisocial ways. Most mentally ill children and adults do not just have one disorder. Most of the time there are many that combine together, which is partly why stabilization is so hard to achieve (even in adults...took me ten years of medication trials to get relief from my depression).</p><p></p><p>Your husband makes things worse for both of you when he does or expects you to do what bio mom wants. He is already thirteen. In five years you won't be legally able to help him at all and likely his violence and dangerous behavior will escalate. He should have had intensive help years ago, but you were not the one to make those decisions and his bio. mom and your hubby did not do it. It's getting kind of late.</p><p></p><p>Some states give kids control of their mental healthcare as young as age twelve. I think it's nutty, but I believe I'm right. Look up your state's mental health laws. Obviously, he needs medication to take the edge off...hopefully he will not refuse it altogether.In the meantime, I have come to like you and admire your fighting spirit so please take good care of yourself.</p><p></p><p>Sending many hugs and good luck.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 626038, member: 1550"] I meekly suggest that maybe you and husband shouldn't do what bio. mom wants and make her leave work. Then she will have to do something. I think he will struggle even in a special school, but it's worth a try. In my heart of hearts, having lived with one, I do think he has attachment disorder and that medications won't do much for that, but he could be calmed down a bit and could also have something co-morbid. (Disclaimer: I am not a medical person) This just isn't how bipolar is however...it's a mood disorder, not a license to act out in antisocial ways. Most mentally ill children and adults do not just have one disorder. Most of the time there are many that combine together, which is partly why stabilization is so hard to achieve (even in adults...took me ten years of medication trials to get relief from my depression). Your husband makes things worse for both of you when he does or expects you to do what bio mom wants. He is already thirteen. In five years you won't be legally able to help him at all and likely his violence and dangerous behavior will escalate. He should have had intensive help years ago, but you were not the one to make those decisions and his bio. mom and your hubby did not do it. It's getting kind of late. Some states give kids control of their mental healthcare as young as age twelve. I think it's nutty, but I believe I'm right. Look up your state's mental health laws. Obviously, he needs medication to take the edge off...hopefully he will not refuse it altogether.In the meantime, I have come to like you and admire your fighting spirit so please take good care of yourself. Sending many hugs and good luck. [/QUOTE]
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