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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 659559" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>Soooo tired, I am sorry. One of the common factors with our dcs is the degree of drama and chaos that follows them everywhere they go. It is victim mentality. It is being an attention hog. It comes with the territory. People who do this have a huge hole deep inside and it is not a hole that you and I can ever fill.</p><p></p><p>I don't know about you, but after years of dealing with this, I have a complete aversion to drama and chaos today. I work to stand way way back from it and not to engage with it as much as possible. </p><p></p><p>My son even though he is doing much better, still likes to show me his cuts and scrapes from his job which includes working with plastics and big machines. Injuries are common. I listen to his voice and watch his face when he is doing this. He is excited and wants me to get excited about it. I used to. Not anymore. When he does this I usually murmur something---deliberately---like that must hurt. Or do you need a bandaid. I try not to feed the drama and I get away from it quickly. </p><p></p><p>Don't engage with this. Let it play out. Stand way way back. Addicts are amazingly resilient and they are true survivors. They abuse their bodies incredibly and keep on ticking.</p><p></p><p>You can't fix this. But I know it is still upsetting. Work to start changing your reactions to these types of situations and in time, you may see and hear less and less of it. If they don't get the reaction they want from us, amazingly the drama lessens. Hang in there.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 659559, member: 17542"] Soooo tired, I am sorry. One of the common factors with our dcs is the degree of drama and chaos that follows them everywhere they go. It is victim mentality. It is being an attention hog. It comes with the territory. People who do this have a huge hole deep inside and it is not a hole that you and I can ever fill. I don't know about you, but after years of dealing with this, I have a complete aversion to drama and chaos today. I work to stand way way back from it and not to engage with it as much as possible. My son even though he is doing much better, still likes to show me his cuts and scrapes from his job which includes working with plastics and big machines. Injuries are common. I listen to his voice and watch his face when he is doing this. He is excited and wants me to get excited about it. I used to. Not anymore. When he does this I usually murmur something---deliberately---like that must hurt. Or do you need a bandaid. I try not to feed the drama and I get away from it quickly. Don't engage with this. Let it play out. Stand way way back. Addicts are amazingly resilient and they are true survivors. They abuse their bodies incredibly and keep on ticking. You can't fix this. But I know it is still upsetting. Work to start changing your reactions to these types of situations and in time, you may see and hear less and less of it. If they don't get the reaction they want from us, amazingly the drama lessens. Hang in there. [/QUOTE]
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