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<blockquote data-quote="lovemysons" data-source="post: 711118" data-attributes="member: 3305"><p>Hi PG, </p><p>As soon as I read your post I knew I had to respond as husband and I have been through this too. </p><p></p><p>As you may recall both of my son's chose drugs/alcohol at around the age of 13. We went through years and years of insanity and pain with them. Today, One is homeless and one is running a million dollar company. Sadly, both still struggle with alcohol.</p><p></p><p>But the one that really could have sealed the deal as far as feeling like a complete failure was our daughter. She was also arrested for possession at age 18...never in trouble before. But here's the thing...I always had a "gut feeling" that our daughter would land on her feet. </p><p></p><p>Dear husband and I just had a talk about this this morning and husband reminded me that we are not in charge or responsible for the results. We are in charge with educating our children about the harmfulness of drugs and alcohol, addiction etc but not the results. They make their own choices in the moment and they do not reflect on us as their parents. What DOES reflect on us...in my humble opinion...is how we respond! It is in our Attitudes!</p><p></p><p>Because I felt that our daughter would land on her feet regardless of life's obstacles...I didn't over react! And this is very important in my opinion. It's important to help our children see that they Can get through the consequences, that they Can make new choices, and Can succeed. </p><p></p><p>Today our daughter is a college graduate and newly happily married. She and her husband are making 6 figures and planning to buy a house in the next 2 years. They are enjoying each other for a few more years too before deciding to have any children. </p><p>The point is...Today our daughter is VERY happy, responsible and successful. </p><p>I absolutely believe this can be the case for your son as well! </p><p></p><p>Just wanted to reach out to you and maybe help you see that you really truly ARE a great parent. You have already gone through hell with one and made it to the other side...You and Dear husband can and will get through this period with your son too. </p><p></p><p>Thinking of you...stay strong! </p><p>Love,</p><p>LMS</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="lovemysons, post: 711118, member: 3305"] Hi PG, As soon as I read your post I knew I had to respond as husband and I have been through this too. As you may recall both of my son's chose drugs/alcohol at around the age of 13. We went through years and years of insanity and pain with them. Today, One is homeless and one is running a million dollar company. Sadly, both still struggle with alcohol. But the one that really could have sealed the deal as far as feeling like a complete failure was our daughter. She was also arrested for possession at age 18...never in trouble before. But here's the thing...I always had a "gut feeling" that our daughter would land on her feet. Dear husband and I just had a talk about this this morning and husband reminded me that we are not in charge or responsible for the results. We are in charge with educating our children about the harmfulness of drugs and alcohol, addiction etc but not the results. They make their own choices in the moment and they do not reflect on us as their parents. What DOES reflect on us...in my humble opinion...is how we respond! It is in our Attitudes! Because I felt that our daughter would land on her feet regardless of life's obstacles...I didn't over react! And this is very important in my opinion. It's important to help our children see that they Can get through the consequences, that they Can make new choices, and Can succeed. Today our daughter is a college graduate and newly happily married. She and her husband are making 6 figures and planning to buy a house in the next 2 years. They are enjoying each other for a few more years too before deciding to have any children. The point is...Today our daughter is VERY happy, responsible and successful. I absolutely believe this can be the case for your son as well! Just wanted to reach out to you and maybe help you see that you really truly ARE a great parent. You have already gone through hell with one and made it to the other side...You and Dear husband can and will get through this period with your son too. Thinking of you...stay strong! Love, LMS [/QUOTE]
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