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<blockquote data-quote="Sister's Keeper" data-source="post: 684154" data-attributes="member: 20051"><p>May I be blunt? </p><p></p><p>This is pretty much the progression with every one of my sister's relapses (and there are more than I can count. At this point she is in prison)</p><p></p><p>At 1st it is all positive. "I'm in treatment, I'm going to do it this time, I'm tired of living this way." Basically, all the stuff she knows I want to hear.</p><p></p><p>Then the goals, "I'm going to get a job, pay off my fines, take that parenting class, get to know the kids."</p><p></p><p>Then the complaints, "I hate taking the bus to the clinic every day, I hate the social worker that runs the group, I'm tired of the group, it's the same thing every day."</p><p></p><p>Then the excuses, "I didn't feel good, It was too cold out, I missed the bus, I can't do this and get a job."</p><p></p><p>Then the relapse. </p><p></p><p>I haven't given any financial support (other than some clothes and food and a few nights in a fleabag motel when we had code blue temperatures) in 4 years.</p><p></p><p>I am at the point, now, where I almost have a speech. When the complaining starts I say, "You have to decide what is right for you. Remember, we will not even talk about you seeing the kids (I am raising her kids) until you have had a year of sobriety under your belt. </p><p></p><p>She knows to never ask for money. Actually, she knows not to ask for anything.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Sister's Keeper, post: 684154, member: 20051"] May I be blunt? This is pretty much the progression with every one of my sister's relapses (and there are more than I can count. At this point she is in prison) At 1st it is all positive. "I'm in treatment, I'm going to do it this time, I'm tired of living this way." Basically, all the stuff she knows I want to hear. Then the goals, "I'm going to get a job, pay off my fines, take that parenting class, get to know the kids." Then the complaints, "I hate taking the bus to the clinic every day, I hate the social worker that runs the group, I'm tired of the group, it's the same thing every day." Then the excuses, "I didn't feel good, It was too cold out, I missed the bus, I can't do this and get a job." Then the relapse. I haven't given any financial support (other than some clothes and food and a few nights in a fleabag motel when we had code blue temperatures) in 4 years. I am at the point, now, where I almost have a speech. When the complaining starts I say, "You have to decide what is right for you. Remember, we will not even talk about you seeing the kids (I am raising her kids) until you have had a year of sobriety under your belt. She knows to never ask for money. Actually, she knows not to ask for anything. [/QUOTE]
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