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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 719079" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>Rn. I am sorry. I don't know why either. Nobody knows, I think. Not him. Nobody.</p><p></p><p>When he is through this part of his life he may be able to know. To tell. But that is the life he will create of his own will.</p><p></p><p>I do not believe in rock bottom. Actually. I see him helping himself. He is getting himself to treatment. To detox. To sober living. He is relapsing but he is catching himself. He is doing it. Not you or his dad.</p><p></p><p>There is a glass half full here I think. That is what I am saying.</p><p></p><p>Whether I can survive it, is the question.</p><p></p><p>The deep fear for them. And me too.</p><p></p><p>I know I think about this in a different way than many here but I am coming to see our path, that of my son and i, as part of the manifesting of our love. I see the surrender as coming from me. The will that needs to be broken as my own. I am the one who needs to let go of patterns. I cannot focus on him. To locate results and expectations in him.</p><p></p><p>Something that sam3 wrote a few days ago has stuck with me. It was about the love. And how not everybody can know that they gave all in love for another person. Could or would do that.</p><p></p><p>When I allowed the deep wisdom of that in I realized I needed nothing from my son except to love him.</p><p></p><p>I hope I can remember that next time.</p><p></p><p>I found my son and told him that. Come home. There are no conditions. Just that you be OK. </p><p></p><p>From that he seemed to step up. And show empathy. He did not accept the offer. For now. He said he had things he needed to take care of.</p><p></p><p>What everybody seems to be saying is this is not tugawar. I need to put down my end</p><p></p><p>This is their life to live.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 719079, member: 18958"] Rn. I am sorry. I don't know why either. Nobody knows, I think. Not him. Nobody. When he is through this part of his life he may be able to know. To tell. But that is the life he will create of his own will. I do not believe in rock bottom. Actually. I see him helping himself. He is getting himself to treatment. To detox. To sober living. He is relapsing but he is catching himself. He is doing it. Not you or his dad. There is a glass half full here I think. That is what I am saying. Whether I can survive it, is the question. The deep fear for them. And me too. I know I think about this in a different way than many here but I am coming to see our path, that of my son and i, as part of the manifesting of our love. I see the surrender as coming from me. The will that needs to be broken as my own. I am the one who needs to let go of patterns. I cannot focus on him. To locate results and expectations in him. Something that sam3 wrote a few days ago has stuck with me. It was about the love. And how not everybody can know that they gave all in love for another person. Could or would do that. When I allowed the deep wisdom of that in I realized I needed nothing from my son except to love him. I hope I can remember that next time. I found my son and told him that. Come home. There are no conditions. Just that you be OK. From that he seemed to step up. And show empathy. He did not accept the offer. For now. He said he had things he needed to take care of. What everybody seems to be saying is this is not tugawar. I need to put down my end This is their life to live. [/QUOTE]
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