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Hey, Old Timers...Remember EF and the girlfriend ?
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<blockquote data-quote="DDD" data-source="post: 43725" data-attributes="member: 35"><p>Suz, I am assuming that he is dealing. Truthfully it is just</p><p>impossible to identify which factors dominate. He has brain</p><p>damage that has resulted in short term memory loss (some old</p><p>memory missing too), he has cognitive issues, he has MAJOR impulse control issues, he still sleeps alot BUT...and this is a</p><p>major BUT...he walks, talks, laughs, etc. and is not disabled</p><p>enough to be "disabled". He is capable of doing jobs. He is not</p><p>capable of doing sophisticated ongoing career path planning. He</p><p>is not able to accept that he is no longer destined for great success.</p><p></p><p>Does that make sense just reading it??</p><p></p><p>He does not (or can not) sustain interest in any arena. He took</p><p>a complex computer course at the college and got A's in the work</p><p>he did BUT he didn't pick up on the fact that there were a bunch</p><p>of assignments that were due..and never done. So when he saw he</p><p>had a bunch of zeroes which offset the A's he quit the course and</p><p>said he would take it again next semester and get straight A's.</p><p>That semester started a few weeks ago. He decided that he had to</p><p>lose the extra weight and get in shape AND that he couldn't do it</p><p>at home with-o exercise equipment (which I am not going to buy). He</p><p>told me about a personal trainer who had just moved to town and</p><p>is located within walking distance of our house. I encouraged him to check it out. He checked it out and the guy wanted MEGA</p><p>bucks...I can't afford it. on the other hand, I talked to the P.T. and he</p><p>agreed to meet with easy child/difficult child once a week and "guide" him. Today</p><p>was the 4th week of 6 prepaid. He did not go today and got very</p><p>angry that I thought he should.</p><p></p><p>Yikes. As you can see I could go on and on and on. husband and I do</p><p>not believe he is capable of success at this point BUT we also</p><p>believe he is dealing and we are positive he is using/drinking</p><p>to excess. So...what to do? Like his CD Board name, lol, he</p><p>vacillates between being affectionate, caring, funny easy child and being</p><p>an addict who some days has a real attitude.</p><p></p><p>We're trying to find a solution somehow. All on his own he will</p><p>end up in jail again and he will be sent to prison if the local</p><p>Judge can do it. That's just fact. His whole "record" is based</p><p>on booze use, pot related issues. No violence. No dealing. No</p><p>disorderly conduct. Just plain addiction. He can be arrested</p><p>being near someone who is toking a joint and easy child/difficult child would not even know because he lost his sense of smell with the surgery.</p><p></p><p>It's a horrible situation to be in. Thanks for caring. DDD</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DDD, post: 43725, member: 35"] Suz, I am assuming that he is dealing. Truthfully it is just impossible to identify which factors dominate. He has brain damage that has resulted in short term memory loss (some old memory missing too), he has cognitive issues, he has MAJOR impulse control issues, he still sleeps alot BUT...and this is a major BUT...he walks, talks, laughs, etc. and is not disabled enough to be "disabled". He is capable of doing jobs. He is not capable of doing sophisticated ongoing career path planning. He is not able to accept that he is no longer destined for great success. Does that make sense just reading it?? He does not (or can not) sustain interest in any arena. He took a complex computer course at the college and got A's in the work he did BUT he didn't pick up on the fact that there were a bunch of assignments that were due..and never done. So when he saw he had a bunch of zeroes which offset the A's he quit the course and said he would take it again next semester and get straight A's. That semester started a few weeks ago. He decided that he had to lose the extra weight and get in shape AND that he couldn't do it at home with-o exercise equipment (which I am not going to buy). He told me about a personal trainer who had just moved to town and is located within walking distance of our house. I encouraged him to check it out. He checked it out and the guy wanted MEGA bucks...I can't afford it. on the other hand, I talked to the P.T. and he agreed to meet with easy child/difficult child once a week and "guide" him. Today was the 4th week of 6 prepaid. He did not go today and got very angry that I thought he should. Yikes. As you can see I could go on and on and on. husband and I do not believe he is capable of success at this point BUT we also believe he is dealing and we are positive he is using/drinking to excess. So...what to do? Like his CD Board name, lol, he vacillates between being affectionate, caring, funny easy child and being an addict who some days has a real attitude. We're trying to find a solution somehow. All on his own he will end up in jail again and he will be sent to prison if the local Judge can do it. That's just fact. His whole "record" is based on booze use, pot related issues. No violence. No dealing. No disorderly conduct. Just plain addiction. He can be arrested being near someone who is toking a joint and easy child/difficult child would not even know because he lost his sense of smell with the surgery. It's a horrible situation to be in. Thanks for caring. DDD [/QUOTE]
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