Posted on behalf of @brokenmama: Hi all- so happy to have found that we are so not alone. Long story short, we are at our wits end with our 21 year old son. He suffers mental illness and personality disorder, and like so many can be completely "normal", charming and bright...but most often we are victim to his endless drama, lies, drug and gambling abuse. He has been in and out of therapy, special schools, programs, rehabs, halfway homes, etc. starting at the age of 9. He currently lives out west and we are in FL (distance has been a good thing). After a good stint a year ago in his halfway home, he chose to move out west independently (but with some financial support). He made it a few good months of holding a job, attending therapy, and paying the majority of his expenses, but now has been unemployed for months and calls us literally telling us how awful we are as parents and that all that we have done for him was stupid. And guess who is paying rent? We are because we stupidly cosigned a lease. He literally calls/ texts hundreds of times a day cursing us, slandering us, abusing us for not getting him a car, getting him more money, letting him go back to college (yes we tried that and he dropped out after two weeks), or letting him come home to live. More recently he says he is in debt with bookies and they are hunting him down (according to him). He is threatening us that if we don't get him the money, he will be harmed. Besides this, there is so much more to this story that I haven't got the energy to explain now (arrests, commitments, verbal abuse to his sister, etc).. The bottom line is that we are ready to LET GO. We have been with a therapist that we really like and trust and who has been on the journey with us the past two years. He agrees, it is time as well. In the next few days, my husband and I want to come up with a plan that we would like to present our son: a cut off plan. I guess I am open to any suggestions of what to include in this plan. So far we are thinking along the lines of things like no contact for at least one year, no more cell phone plans paid for, no more rent, etc...also what to do if he just ignores our boundaries specifically regarding communication and how to handle other relatives that he often ties up in his webs. This is the scariest, saddest, thing I have ever had to do, but I know it has to happen for the sake of our sanity. Thanks in advance for any little bits of advice.. p.s. runawaybunny can you help me share this on the forum? I couldn't figure out how!