Hi, I am new to this. I have a 7 yr old son with ADHD and ODD. I am looking for some suggestions on how to handle the extreme disrespect and defiance that I am encountering. I must admit that I lost my cool the other day and allowed him to push me over the edge and he got his mouth washed out with soap. We have just started seeing a new family therapist but you know how it takes time. I am just at my wits end and I feel awful that I dread spending any time with my child. I also have an older daughter who is 12 who takes alot of the brunt of his misbehavior. I should add that to complicate matters I am separated from my husband. We share 50/50 custody. The kids stay 1 week with me and 1 with him. He ofcourse tells me that he doesnt have the same problems with our son that I do. Any suggestions on discipline or reading material. We have been fighting this battle for some time and I have tried many different types of positive reward systems and we are on our 3rd therapist. I must appologize if I am doing this wrong, like I said I am new and I dont know what all the abbreviations stand for. Like difficult child? Thanks for any suggestions! So stressed!