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Hi my brother beats me he 21, and my mom says i dont know what to do.
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 713201" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Wow. It sounds awful. I believe you.</p><p></p><p>I think you need to get out first and then maybe take classes for some sort of certification later, at night or weekends. Take any job and stash money away. You dont need a castle right now...renting a room in somebodys home has got to be better than living with your brother. You can get a better place as your income improves. I think leaving should be first priority.</p><p></p><p>You are very young, however some young men your age are in the military. Is that an option for you? An interest?</p><p></p><p>Even if you just get a restaurant job for now, you can find a room to rent. You dont need to move out right away unless you feel desperate. I understand either way.</p><p></p><p>You do have the right to call the police if you are assaulted, especially if you have marks on you...that indicates credibility. Your brother will be less credible to the police than your blind parents. Dont let their scapegoating of you become how you see yourself. You are not crazy or bad. They are just, for whatever reason, all in with your lazy, mean brother. That is their problem. It doesnt reflect on you.</p><p></p><p>I feel sad for you, but I was the family scapegoat too. You can overcome it. You may have to decide not to care what your family thinks about you. They see you through their own issues, problems, and weaknesses. Their opinions are not accurate.</p><p></p><p>That is easier once you move out. in my opinion best to work on that. See if any friends want to share a place with you. If not, look into that room in a private house. Check Craigslist for rooms for rent. Much cheaper than an apartment.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 713201, member: 1550"] Wow. It sounds awful. I believe you. I think you need to get out first and then maybe take classes for some sort of certification later, at night or weekends. Take any job and stash money away. You dont need a castle right now...renting a room in somebodys home has got to be better than living with your brother. You can get a better place as your income improves. I think leaving should be first priority. You are very young, however some young men your age are in the military. Is that an option for you? An interest? Even if you just get a restaurant job for now, you can find a room to rent. You dont need to move out right away unless you feel desperate. I understand either way. You do have the right to call the police if you are assaulted, especially if you have marks on you...that indicates credibility. Your brother will be less credible to the police than your blind parents. Dont let their scapegoating of you become how you see yourself. You are not crazy or bad. They are just, for whatever reason, all in with your lazy, mean brother. That is their problem. It doesnt reflect on you. I feel sad for you, but I was the family scapegoat too. You can overcome it. You may have to decide not to care what your family thinks about you. They see you through their own issues, problems, and weaknesses. Their opinions are not accurate. That is easier once you move out. in my opinion best to work on that. See if any friends want to share a place with you. If not, look into that room in a private house. Check Craigslist for rooms for rent. Much cheaper than an apartment. [/QUOTE]
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