Hi, long-time lurker who wants to come out and be supportive of those who are especially struggling right now. We made it through the teen years alive with difficult child and although we have times of sheer pain over him, we cope and sometimes thrive. It does take practice, and unfortunately difficult child is close to turning "pro" so we have a lot of practice under our belt. No way can I give the whole history, that's for a book (ha!), but for now I wanted to tell you this ... In January 07 husband and I went on a mission trip to Dominican Republic. When we returned we had been robbed, jewelry and tools mostly, and our difficult child was the culprit. A former friend of his called to tell us our stuff had been taken to local pawn shops and that difficult child was using heroin. We had just spent Christmas with him, and he was very sick but I thought he had a cold, no clue about heroin! We pressed charges, after spending 2 days in limbo/shock, he admitted to it and was arrested. He has been in a county jail ever since. Fast-forward, in June we asked the prosecution to send him to in-patient drug rehab, which they agreed to, but he ended up with a felony for theft over $300. Here's the kicker ... in December he had been arrested with his roommate in another county for trafficking. Marijuana ... within 1000 yards of a school. At the time I thought I was helping him by bailing him out. Really it was for me, I didn't want him in jail for Christmas. So he came "home" with us through the holidays, then we left for our trip. You know the rest. Our charge in our county resulted in 5 years probation and he has to successfully complete drug treatment in a large city in our state. They have a bed waiting for him. The original trafficking charge resulted in a jury trial, where he was found guilty and recommended one year. The judge passes final sentencing Oct 15, and we are hoping it is a "time served" sentence. He is in that county jail now, so he has been in a county jail continuously since February. I could kick myself because if I hadn't bailed him out in December he wouldn't have stolen from us in January! Oh well ... not really, all things considered we are so glad we found out about heroin and that he will eventually get treatment. My difficult child is the kind of kid who has always gotten in trouble wherever he went. He is funny, smart, and deviant. Anyway, I hope to get to know you all better and contribute in some small way so that something good comes out of our experiences.