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hi - New Here, son just put in Residential Treatment Center (RTC), will things ever get better?
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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 675514" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>My son has been in residential treatment several times. He is doing somewhat better. He is 27 now, I do not remember if I told you. Except for short periods he has not lived with me since he was 23. When he was 19 he went to Job Corps for 5 months. Sometimes I think it was a mistake I let him come home. But mostly I don't. We found out he had a serious illness when he was 19 or 20. Had he not come home, we would never have found out. I have learned to try to live without regret for what I cannot change. I have to accept what is.</p><p></p><p>My son uses a lot of marijuana and he also had a serious brain injury. He also fell heavily into conspiracy theories. I have had a psychiatrist tell me that it sounded like my son is delusional. I fought that. When my son is occupied with constructive things, like having fun with a friend, or working, he acts much more normally. I have refused to listen to his theories, and when he became convinced I was serious and would not talk to him he stopped. The psychiatrist said the proclivity for conspiracy theories indicated paranoia. I said, fine, does that mean everybody that believes like Oliver Stone, that there was cover up in Kennedy's killing, is mentally ill too?</p><p></p><p>My point is that these kids are young. They are using way too much marijuana. They are confused. Nobody says they are not troubled. They are. But they can work themselves out of it. Many do. There is a wide range of variability.</p><p></p><p>I have worked with the mentally ill. There is hope. Your son is exactly where he needs to be.</p><p></p><p>It is not your job, the job of a mother, to keep her mentally ill child safe. That would be detrimental to your sanity and no good for your son. There are all kinds of transitional programs where your son can go--from residential treatment. If he is seriously ill, he can apply for SSI, for mental illness. In fact, you can apply for him now, I think.</p><p></p><p>If he is seriously mentally ill he can go to a residential program for adults. Learn living skills, get medication management, and live supervised in satellite housing as long as he needs it. He can even go to college living in satellite housing, if he is capable of doing so.</p><p></p><p>The important thing is to realize it is not your fault and not your responsibility to deal with alone. Your son will become independent to the extent that he can, helped by adult mental health programs and professionals. But not in your house. If there is risk, you cannot care for him. It will not help him.</p><p></p><p>First things first. You need to stabilize yourself. Rest. Be gentle with yourself. Stay in the present. All of this will work itself out.</p><p></p><p>COPA</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 675514, member: 18958"] My son has been in residential treatment several times. He is doing somewhat better. He is 27 now, I do not remember if I told you. Except for short periods he has not lived with me since he was 23. When he was 19 he went to Job Corps for 5 months. Sometimes I think it was a mistake I let him come home. But mostly I don't. We found out he had a serious illness when he was 19 or 20. Had he not come home, we would never have found out. I have learned to try to live without regret for what I cannot change. I have to accept what is. My son uses a lot of marijuana and he also had a serious brain injury. He also fell heavily into conspiracy theories. I have had a psychiatrist tell me that it sounded like my son is delusional. I fought that. When my son is occupied with constructive things, like having fun with a friend, or working, he acts much more normally. I have refused to listen to his theories, and when he became convinced I was serious and would not talk to him he stopped. The psychiatrist said the proclivity for conspiracy theories indicated paranoia. I said, fine, does that mean everybody that believes like Oliver Stone, that there was cover up in Kennedy's killing, is mentally ill too? My point is that these kids are young. They are using way too much marijuana. They are confused. Nobody says they are not troubled. They are. But they can work themselves out of it. Many do. There is a wide range of variability. I have worked with the mentally ill. There is hope. Your son is exactly where he needs to be. It is not your job, the job of a mother, to keep her mentally ill child safe. That would be detrimental to your sanity and no good for your son. There are all kinds of transitional programs where your son can go--from residential treatment. If he is seriously ill, he can apply for SSI, for mental illness. In fact, you can apply for him now, I think. If he is seriously mentally ill he can go to a residential program for adults. Learn living skills, get medication management, and live supervised in satellite housing as long as he needs it. He can even go to college living in satellite housing, if he is capable of doing so. The important thing is to realize it is not your fault and not your responsibility to deal with alone. Your son will become independent to the extent that he can, helped by adult mental health programs and professionals. But not in your house. If there is risk, you cannot care for him. It will not help him. First things first. You need to stabilize yourself. Rest. Be gentle with yourself. Stay in the present. All of this will work itself out. COPA [/QUOTE]
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