Over the weekend Wiz told us that my mother claims to have been with gfgbro and seen me outside by our old car that hasn't run in 4 yrs and that I was drinking from a bottle hidden in a paper bag and I put it in the old car so that husband and the kids wouldn't know I was drinking! First of all, I am not an alcoholic. Never had a problem stopping drinking and actually except for a couple of years in college I just am not a big drinker. The last ten yrs even a very very small bit of alcohol turns my IBS into severe agony. It just is NOT worth that to me. I have not hidden alcohol since I became old enough to buy it legally. husband and i both realize that we don't have problems with alcohol and neither of us would ever think to hide it from the other, much less to go and do it. When my mother said this to Wiz, his reaction was "BS" straight to her face - and he does NOT cuss at gma/gpa. Gma went running to gpa, made a HUGE deal about Wiz saying that to her. Gpa came out, asked why Wiz said that and Wiz started to tell Gpa what Gma told him. My mother (Gma) shut Wiz up SUPERFAST with her "oh, this needs to be something that Wiz and I work out ourselves, I was just upset over other things and this just got to me, blah blah blah. Gma never says another word to Wiz about it. Gpa, however, asks Wiz what was going on - and Wiz tells him. Apparently Gpa is NOT HAPPY with gma, which explains why she was suddenly so eager to take the kids to do something this last weekend. Gma needed a buffer. We did a do-over on J's birthday, both at home and at Gma's - J's request. This weekend J heard my mother call gfgbro and tell him he was NOT going to come over because she had my kids there and she was NOT going to hurt them. He showed up, of course. J went into the next room with a door between her and my mom/bro. thank you was at the other end of the house and didn't know it happened. My mother told him he was leaving, was NOT getting a cup of coffee, was NOT sitting down and was NOT going to disrespect her this way. I am glad she stood up to gfgbro. I won't ever count on it. She doesn't return my calls/email, so I am not contacting her. My only contact was for her birthday two weeks ago, and she couldn't even return that. I am at the point where the koi like the bottle in the car (that didn't exist!) is funny. If Wiz believed any of it I would be very upset. He is so I'm not. My mother has recognized that i WILL keep the kids from her if she is inappropriate in any way. I think she handled gfgbro fairly well. She ddi tell Jess that I had described a very dramatic reaction and that wasn't what she was seeing. My thoughts were along the lines of how could J feel she could show you any of her anxiety? J did have a meltdown and then nightmares for two nights after they got back, but that was tame for a usual casual sighting of gfgbro. I am NOT getting pulled down into my mother's koi. I have been doing quite well at living my life with-o her for the last6 or so weeks, and it can stay this way if she wants to continue her problems. I do wonder what kind of booze I was drinking and hiding in my car? A nice bourbon would be awesome, esp a imaginary bourbon wouldn't make me sick! husband DID check the car to make sure that gfgbro didn't come by one day and stick a bottle or six in there - because it is SOOOOOO what gfgbro would do to try to convince my folks that I am the "bad" child.