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Highly gifted teen son - inpatient, outpatient, dropped out of school
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<blockquote data-quote="BloodiedButUnbowed" data-source="post: 719155" data-attributes="member: 13303"><p>Welcome and sorry you have to be here.</p><p></p><p>The child who brought me to this board, my Difficult Stepson, is now 17 and shares many characteristics with your son. Your son is much more compliant with your wishes, believe it or not, than my DS has ever been with ours. </p><p></p><p>In our case, DS has episodes of aggression and violence in addition to depression, severe social anxiety, and school refusal despite a high IQ, though I don't think he is quite as gifted as your guy.</p><p></p><p>We never found anything that worked for DS. We tried therapy, medications, a 504 plan at his high school, and none of it seemed to make much of a difference....I believe because of his refusal to accept authority and anti-social tendencies which led to my giving him the DS nickname here.</p><p></p><p>He did not speak to us at all during pretty much all of his 16th year. This spring relations thawed after we agreed to let him try online schooling. The results academically have been lackluster, though he's been more productive recently than he was at first; however, his social anxiety is much improved. He is more confident and for the first time in his life, has a circle of good friends. His interactions with us have been warmer than ever before as well. </p><p></p><p>DS has taught me that potential means nothing and that what seems like a blessing can also be a curse. His quick mind is a gift but because of his personality and perhaps, deeper mental health issues, he would be happier with less intelligence and much better able to function in the world.</p><p></p><p>Our family is now in the midst of a life-changing crisis with our younger son and DS' issues are on the back burner for us at the moment. He is handling the crisis very well, all things considered, and we're in a much better place with him than before. If I could give you any piece of advice it would be to allow him to develop at his own pace while at the same time, holding him accountable with the help of therapists. I would also gently add that many of his negative thoughts and feelings might be helped by medication, though at his age, if he insists on non-compliance there's probably little you can do short of hospitalizing him.</p><p></p><p>I don't know what more to say except hang in there and keep posting, this is a wonderful community.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BloodiedButUnbowed, post: 719155, member: 13303"] Welcome and sorry you have to be here. The child who brought me to this board, my Difficult Stepson, is now 17 and shares many characteristics with your son. Your son is much more compliant with your wishes, believe it or not, than my DS has ever been with ours. In our case, DS has episodes of aggression and violence in addition to depression, severe social anxiety, and school refusal despite a high IQ, though I don't think he is quite as gifted as your guy. We never found anything that worked for DS. We tried therapy, medications, a 504 plan at his high school, and none of it seemed to make much of a difference....I believe because of his refusal to accept authority and anti-social tendencies which led to my giving him the DS nickname here. He did not speak to us at all during pretty much all of his 16th year. This spring relations thawed after we agreed to let him try online schooling. The results academically have been lackluster, though he's been more productive recently than he was at first; however, his social anxiety is much improved. He is more confident and for the first time in his life, has a circle of good friends. His interactions with us have been warmer than ever before as well. DS has taught me that potential means nothing and that what seems like a blessing can also be a curse. His quick mind is a gift but because of his personality and perhaps, deeper mental health issues, he would be happier with less intelligence and much better able to function in the world. Our family is now in the midst of a life-changing crisis with our younger son and DS' issues are on the back burner for us at the moment. He is handling the crisis very well, all things considered, and we're in a much better place with him than before. If I could give you any piece of advice it would be to allow him to develop at his own pace while at the same time, holding him accountable with the help of therapists. I would also gently add that many of his negative thoughts and feelings might be helped by medication, though at his age, if he insists on non-compliance there's probably little you can do short of hospitalizing him. I don't know what more to say except hang in there and keep posting, this is a wonderful community. [/QUOTE]
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