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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 732260" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>You sound caring and kind and I understand. I am very tuned in to my kids especially my girls and have to talk to myself a lot to remind myself that they are adults and will tell me what they want me to know. They will share when and if they are ready. Now my girls are 21 and 34 so it's different and they are on their own. And my 34 year old was a troubled drug using teen who would not talk or accept help at that age and I was distraught but there was nothing I could do while she was suffering. She shut us out. My youngest girl was/is fortunately easy and we'll balanced. The few times she was sad, such as when her heart was broken, I learned that it was best for her (not me but her) to let her talk when she wanted to share, not when I knew she was dying inside but didn't want to talk. As an empath or h s p (I am not certain where I fall but I have strong qualties of both and do pick up energy of others) it was so hard just to let her suffer. But I knew, from being close to her, that there were times she wanted to talk and times when.l she didn't. Like you, hard as it was, I did not want to helicopter parent her. It is a real challenge when you can feel their suffering but also know they need their own space.</p><p></p><p>My girls are both doing well now and I still have to wait even when I know.</p><p></p><p>I hope this helped, if only a little. Your sensitivity to your girls will make them love you all the more. You are a very nice man and I am so sorry I gave you grief at first. One of my less endearing traits is to jump to conclusions and I was very wrong.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 732260, member: 1550"] You sound caring and kind and I understand. I am very tuned in to my kids especially my girls and have to talk to myself a lot to remind myself that they are adults and will tell me what they want me to know. They will share when and if they are ready. Now my girls are 21 and 34 so it's different and they are on their own. And my 34 year old was a troubled drug using teen who would not talk or accept help at that age and I was distraught but there was nothing I could do while she was suffering. She shut us out. My youngest girl was/is fortunately easy and we'll balanced. The few times she was sad, such as when her heart was broken, I learned that it was best for her (not me but her) to let her talk when she wanted to share, not when I knew she was dying inside but didn't want to talk. As an empath or h s p (I am not certain where I fall but I have strong qualties of both and do pick up energy of others) it was so hard just to let her suffer. But I knew, from being close to her, that there were times she wanted to talk and times when.l she didn't. Like you, hard as it was, I did not want to helicopter parent her. It is a real challenge when you can feel their suffering but also know they need their own space. My girls are both doing well now and I still have to wait even when I know. I hope this helped, if only a little. Your sensitivity to your girls will make them love you all the more. You are a very nice man and I am so sorry I gave you grief at first. One of my less endearing traits is to jump to conclusions and I was very wrong. [/QUOTE]
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