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<blockquote data-quote="Sam3" data-source="post: 718847" data-attributes="member: 19290"><p>Ive been thinking a lot about the hurricane parallels. Before Harvey was even a tinkle, I was on the boards looking for some principles to anchor me and I think it was Scent of Cedar who was stressing the importance of being like the eye of the storm -- a calm steady core that they can feel when they bring their madness to us, because they know they are out of control. </p><p></p><p>I realized I was not being that. </p><p>I was trying to dissipate his Category 5 winds with my own gale force winds in the other direction. As if reason and right were more reasonable and more right if they are repeated and reframed and shouted in disbelief. </p><p></p><p>It just upped the total madness quotient to no effect except making me feel dizzy and battered. Which felt like my own self destruction. At the end of the day, I have to be standing for my family and to help him if he wants real help. And I deserve to be upright. </p><p></p><p>It may also have been cedar who posted a prayer like:</p><p></p><p>"Please Lord, let me be the parent my child needs me to be."</p><p></p><p>And that is such a paradigm shift from "please Lord let my child be ..."</p><p></p><p>I am trying hard to be that parent. The "eye." Its very hard but I think that's what mine needs.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Sam3, post: 718847, member: 19290"] Ive been thinking a lot about the hurricane parallels. Before Harvey was even a tinkle, I was on the boards looking for some principles to anchor me and I think it was Scent of Cedar who was stressing the importance of being like the eye of the storm -- a calm steady core that they can feel when they bring their madness to us, because they know they are out of control. I realized I was not being that. I was trying to dissipate his Category 5 winds with my own gale force winds in the other direction. As if reason and right were more reasonable and more right if they are repeated and reframed and shouted in disbelief. It just upped the total madness quotient to no effect except making me feel dizzy and battered. Which felt like my own self destruction. At the end of the day, I have to be standing for my family and to help him if he wants real help. And I deserve to be upright. It may also have been cedar who posted a prayer like: "Please Lord, let me be the parent my child needs me to be." And that is such a paradigm shift from "please Lord let my child be ..." I am trying hard to be that parent. The "eye." Its very hard but I think that's what mine needs. [/QUOTE]
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