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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 667775" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>KSd, my opinion is to make sure you get a psychologist's opinion. Therapists can not legally diagnosis.</p><p></p><p>You need to take care of yourself no matter what her diagnosis is, but call my cynical...I would never take the word of a therapist. I would definitely see one to talk to, if we got along well, but I would not consider a therapist fit to diagnose anything. They don't have enough training. That's a heavy diagnosis for a young one and I'd want a second opinion given by a neuropsychologist (psychologist with extra training in the brain). Either that or I'd take her to a psychiatrist.Since her mother has bipolar, she may well have a mood disorder. However, one can have a mood disorder plus other things. Most people who are labeled as mentally ill in some way, like me, have more than one diagnosis and no diagnosis is carved in stone because there are no blood tests. I agree that the treatment plan and your own safety and well being and reaction to her behavior matter more than the diagnosis. At her age, nearing 18, she will be responsible for her own mental health care anyway. There isn't much you can do about it. </p><p></p><p>If she does agree to be tested, make sure she sees somebody who sees a lot of adopted kids. They are a different animal. We love them just as much, but they have special, seperate issues as does any child who suffers a major seperation from his/her birthfamily and the older they leave the home and the more foster homes they have been in(or orphanages) the more that could be going on with them. Genetics too. Doesn't sound like this therapist took the role of adoption into consideration and that is probably not good on her part...adopted kids are far more likely to receive a psychological diagnosis, although with so many divorces and split families it may be getting smaller as a gap. Still, they do tend to have problems. Not all, but a large percentage. Most think about t heir birth families whether they say it to us or not and many are very angry at having been abandoned by them.</p><p></p><p>Most of us adopt kids when we are older and our kids then turn 18 when we are maybe even in our 60s, which makes our own health more open to bad things happening under stress. The age gaps between us and our adopted young people are often wider than the normal age gap. I know mine is. I am 62 and my youngest is 19. My adopted son is 22. Quite an age gap. I could actually be grandma to either of them!!! Thankfully, they do not cause me stress. But I do worry about them if something happens to me. They are still too young to lose a parent. I didn't think of that when we adopted them, but I do now.</p><p></p><p>Do you think she knows something is not right with her? The adopted status could mean, she could also have many other issues that most therapists an d even some psychiatrists know little about, such as reactive attachment disorder, symptoms of fetal alcohol syndrome or drug exposure in utero, and trauma before you got her. It becomes more complicated with adopted kids.Adopted mom here!!!</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>JMO and major big hugs!!!!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 667775, member: 1550"] KSd, my opinion is to make sure you get a psychologist's opinion. Therapists can not legally diagnosis. You need to take care of yourself no matter what her diagnosis is, but call my cynical...I would never take the word of a therapist. I would definitely see one to talk to, if we got along well, but I would not consider a therapist fit to diagnose anything. They don't have enough training. That's a heavy diagnosis for a young one and I'd want a second opinion given by a neuropsychologist (psychologist with extra training in the brain). Either that or I'd take her to a psychiatrist.Since her mother has bipolar, she may well have a mood disorder. However, one can have a mood disorder plus other things. Most people who are labeled as mentally ill in some way, like me, have more than one diagnosis and no diagnosis is carved in stone because there are no blood tests. I agree that the treatment plan and your own safety and well being and reaction to her behavior matter more than the diagnosis. At her age, nearing 18, she will be responsible for her own mental health care anyway. There isn't much you can do about it. If she does agree to be tested, make sure she sees somebody who sees a lot of adopted kids. They are a different animal. We love them just as much, but they have special, seperate issues as does any child who suffers a major seperation from his/her birthfamily and the older they leave the home and the more foster homes they have been in(or orphanages) the more that could be going on with them. Genetics too. Doesn't sound like this therapist took the role of adoption into consideration and that is probably not good on her part...adopted kids are far more likely to receive a psychological diagnosis, although with so many divorces and split families it may be getting smaller as a gap. Still, they do tend to have problems. Not all, but a large percentage. Most think about t heir birth families whether they say it to us or not and many are very angry at having been abandoned by them. Most of us adopt kids when we are older and our kids then turn 18 when we are maybe even in our 60s, which makes our own health more open to bad things happening under stress. The age gaps between us and our adopted young people are often wider than the normal age gap. I know mine is. I am 62 and my youngest is 19. My adopted son is 22. Quite an age gap. I could actually be grandma to either of them!!! Thankfully, they do not cause me stress. But I do worry about them if something happens to me. They are still too young to lose a parent. I didn't think of that when we adopted them, but I do now. Do you think she knows something is not right with her? The adopted status could mean, she could also have many other issues that most therapists an d even some psychiatrists know little about, such as reactive attachment disorder, symptoms of fetal alcohol syndrome or drug exposure in utero, and trauma before you got her. It becomes more complicated with adopted kids.Adopted mom here!!! JMO and major big hugs!!!! [/QUOTE]
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