L is buying a house with her boyfriend. He seems like a very nice man and money will not be a problem. It will be a much nice house than mine, and mine is not bad. She's also asking me to help plan a wedding next year in the South Pacific. He is from New Zealand and they would like to meet somewhere in the middle. He's very quiet and well employed and seems to love her very much. Her dad and I agree that she is doing well and that this is a very positive outlook for her. It's a bit stressful for us, as we have only met him a few times, and he really doesn't talk much but seems to genuinely loves her. I hope that if here is money in the budget that he will pay someone to clean their house because her apartment was slimy gross when we went. I'm a little anxious about the idea of funding a wedding in Tahiti or Fiji. We really don't have the money for that. I was hoping that with two adult people who are well to do that we won't be expected to pay our way there, pr perhaps not for all of it. She wants us to stay at least five nights, and that seems like about $6,000 - $8,000 for husband and I and that's not exactly something we were planning for. Being in he financial position that they are in, and at their age, if they were getting married in the area I would not expect to pay for their wedding. She's not a little girl she doesn't need a dowry. I'd be happy to get the dress or something but I'm not in a position to borrow to pay for her wedding. Oh, well. This isn't going to happen for 10 months or so, so we can work our way up to that.