I participated in this for several years. I did not last year and am not sure there was one last year. In the past one person volunteers and you send them your address and they compile all the names and addresses .
(Does that mean that I just volunteered to coordinate? )
Sadandfrustrated, yes, the coordinator compiles a private list, either through pm's on this board, or emails. We exchange cards. It's fun. Some people send photos, and some people prefer to remain anonymous. Some even make handmade cards.
It's totally up to each person's discretion.
After the exchange, the idea is to rip up the list so that confidentiality is maintained.
P.S. For all you grammar Nazis, I know that the plural of private messaging does not use an apostrophe, but I had to use one so it didn't look like PMS. I've got enough problems without getting PMS from board members, lol!
If a Christmas card were to come to my house, the rest of the family would know that I got it, and would want to know who it is from and why I know that person... and my family doesn't know I'm on this board. I don't want them to know. It's a bigger issue than certain people on this board finding out who I am in real life, if you know what I mean.