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<blockquote data-quote="Snow White" data-source="post: 705083" data-attributes="member: 355"><p>Jodie, you have hit the nail on the head. The holidays seem to be a catalyst for emotions at both ends of the spectrum. And you have a double-whammy with not only 2 difficult children but add in 2 parents with mental illness. Your plate is more than full. </p><p></p><p>There is not much you can do if your parents are competent (whether we believe their decisions are correct or not). The Cluster B traits are so difficult to work with - our daughter is in that category. SWOT has summarized the characteristics perfectly.</p><p></p><p>I made a promise to myself this year that my daughter was not going to ruin another holiday. She hasn't spoken to me in 2 months and I'm not sure where she is. Our son is back from overseas and has missed 2 Christmases. Last night was wonderful as we had the whole clan together at our house. We turned off the phone and enjoyed the dinner and festivities. It felt good to laugh and have a good time but when I woke up this morning there was a feeling of sadness and a premonition that something is going t happen. Sure enough, the phone started ringing (from "Unknown Caller"). I'm not answering it. It's so hard to let go but I have to. </p><p></p><p>I'm sorry for your sadness and frustration. I hope that you can take some time for yourself to rest and rejuvenate.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Snow White, post: 705083, member: 355"] Jodie, you have hit the nail on the head. The holidays seem to be a catalyst for emotions at both ends of the spectrum. And you have a double-whammy with not only 2 difficult children but add in 2 parents with mental illness. Your plate is more than full. There is not much you can do if your parents are competent (whether we believe their decisions are correct or not). The Cluster B traits are so difficult to work with - our daughter is in that category. SWOT has summarized the characteristics perfectly. I made a promise to myself this year that my daughter was not going to ruin another holiday. She hasn't spoken to me in 2 months and I'm not sure where she is. Our son is back from overseas and has missed 2 Christmases. Last night was wonderful as we had the whole clan together at our house. We turned off the phone and enjoyed the dinner and festivities. It felt good to laugh and have a good time but when I woke up this morning there was a feeling of sadness and a premonition that something is going t happen. Sure enough, the phone started ringing (from "Unknown Caller"). I'm not answering it. It's so hard to let go but I have to. I'm sorry for your sadness and frustration. I hope that you can take some time for yourself to rest and rejuvenate. [/QUOTE]
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