Well, good news!! A letter from my son. He sounds very good, for today and where he is. And so far nothing horrible has happened to either of them. I have just been so worried, with all the people in my life that are not functioning well it does affect my happiness too. I do find myself in the midst of a happy scene but yet still unhappy because of a feeling of impending doom. There has just been too many years of this and I think I must have some form of ptsd!! I can see how that happens. I have no understanding of how to quit that but it happens a lot. The holidays are stressful for most people I assume but with 2 adult children with major life problems, I guess I just have a hard time dismissing this, even when there is no life or death issues. I am working on this and do realize that I should not take on the job of fixing them. I think part of the stress is the practice of having to relearn my way of living at this age, and not get involved. I do tell both of them that I love them and hope they find ways to work out the problems. This seems to work so far. I hope all of you are doing well and having a peaceful time now.