I just got my copy of The Explosive Child in the mail today and am 30 pages into it and I just have to say: Holy Cow!!! This is the second thing I have ever heard that makes ANY sense whatsoever about my child. (The first being his diagnosis of Asperger's). This book is awesome!!! I have always felt, albeit instinctively that trying to "show the child who is boss" was just wrong, wrong, wrong, but I have never been able to articulate why. I have always felt that if difficult child could control himself, he would. Now I am learning why he cannot & what to do about it. Thank you to everyone who recommended this book. It is the only thing I have read so far that even begins to explain what goes on with him & how to fix it. What a great, great book!