My husband and i are both at our entire wits end. difficult child is now almost 9 and i haven't posted in a while. He's ADHD/bipolar/ODD with conduct disorder and plain stubborn. We've had an IEP in the past, worth the paper it was written on, they did work with it for a while but after the end of 2nd grade, they never updated it in 3rd. Then came the BIP, again worthless as the paper it was typed on. Then the FBA........same thing. All of these things and the school still refused to learn about any of his disorders or how to work with him, suspend him, segragate him from the other kids so he wouldn't say bad things to them or touch them by taking him out of gym class, sending him to other rooms to do his work, writing referal after referal after referal (which they sent home with him and of course we never saw half of them). He was suspended last October for exposing himself, we're still not sure where that came from or why he did it. Between October and the beginning of March this year we had CPS called on us 7 times and even they were getting annoyed with the school because they were calling on behavioral problems and not abuse or neglect. Again in Feburary difficult child asked 3 little girls to **** his........you fill in the blanks. We were horrified most definitely. We were also very angry that we didn't find out about any of this until the end of the day, that he was on his way home with a referral and he was suspended. And questioned by a police officer with a "neutral" teacher pulled instead of letting us either know or be there. We finally had a meeting to get him back into the school and there were several routes we could take but my husband wanted him out of that school (as did i) so we went straight into a case conference that we weren't planning on having so none of the big wigs from the school weren't there. so i guess it was a they wanted it and we wanted it thing for him to be out of the school and they would bus him somewhere else *cringe* (he does not do well on busses and has already gottend in trouble). They held him in the principals office for what was to be a week to get things set up to transfer him. He took his istep in the mean time and chewed a chunk out of it, the principal was at his wits end by the end of the week. they ended up messing up, he was to go to a different school than what was planned, i made arrangements to send him to the first school any way and no one in the school district talked to each other and it was a hairy mess. but we got it straighteded out. 4 days into his new school which is set up for his kind of problems and he's in trouble already, sent to the principals office even!!! even telling other kids that God is raping their mother. we don't talk like this and i don't know where he gets it!!!!!!!!!!!! sorry about babbling.