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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 652448" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Lil, my sister dated a guy who had herpes and he didn't tell her for months. She could have caught it. There are some things that you can't just move on from, even if that makes it prettier. What if you had a daughter and he was perhaps having sex with her?</p><p></p><p>Someone I know got HPV from a guy. You know that HPV is far more serious to a girl than a guy. She didn't know it until she had female problems, pre-cancer.</p><p></p><p>Sorry, I know your have a son, but if you are going to play in the sexual field the other person has a right to know if you gave her or have any STDs and in my opinion we are morally inept if we allow our boys or girls to get away with lying to partners about they may contract by doing the deed with our kids. Or us. This is far worse than just enabling. We are allowing somebody else to possibly get sick and spread something even more because we don't want to offend our young adult's dirty secrets. That takes enabling to a whole other level in my opinion (I mean no offense. I think you get it more if you have a girl).</p><p></p><p>When I first got divorced, my very first date was with an extremely hot man in his thirties. Wow, was he hot. He barely touched me and I didn't get it. Later, he told me he was HIV positive. I cringed. Not that I was Debbie Does Dallas...I was actually a prude, but after seventeen years of rather poor sex, I was looking for somebody to love and enjoy in every way. If he hadn't told me, it could have been him. He was sweet as well as gorgeous. Turns out his dead wife had a kidney disorder, had many blood transplants, and when they had a baby, the baby died. The baby was born with AIDS. SHe had it too. He then found out he had it. WHat if he hadn't told me?</p><p></p><p>I think one important life's lesson to teach our still young adult children is to be honest about things that are health-related. What if some AIDS infected, HPV infected, Herpes infected or any STD infected woman had sex with your son and hadn't told him? It's not privacy anymore, in my opinion, when you put somebody else at risk to make your own life easier.</p><p></p><p>I consider this a safety issue. It's not about what happened, what didn't happen, when it happened. It is something H. needs to know, regardless of how she finds out. We can not trust our Difficult Child to be brave enough to lay a bombshell like this on their latest hottie. If we know about it, and Terry took him to a pediatrician and was with him for his shot, H. is owed the truth. And I would make sure she got the truth. If Difficult Child wouldn't do it in front of me, I'd tell her or I'd lose many nights of sleep.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 652448, member: 1550"] Lil, my sister dated a guy who had herpes and he didn't tell her for months. She could have caught it. There are some things that you can't just move on from, even if that makes it prettier. What if you had a daughter and he was perhaps having sex with her? Someone I know got HPV from a guy. You know that HPV is far more serious to a girl than a guy. She didn't know it until she had female problems, pre-cancer. Sorry, I know your have a son, but if you are going to play in the sexual field the other person has a right to know if you gave her or have any STDs and in my opinion we are morally inept if we allow our boys or girls to get away with lying to partners about they may contract by doing the deed with our kids. Or us. This is far worse than just enabling. We are allowing somebody else to possibly get sick and spread something even more because we don't want to offend our young adult's dirty secrets. That takes enabling to a whole other level in my opinion (I mean no offense. I think you get it more if you have a girl). When I first got divorced, my very first date was with an extremely hot man in his thirties. Wow, was he hot. He barely touched me and I didn't get it. Later, he told me he was HIV positive. I cringed. Not that I was Debbie Does Dallas...I was actually a prude, but after seventeen years of rather poor sex, I was looking for somebody to love and enjoy in every way. If he hadn't told me, it could have been him. He was sweet as well as gorgeous. Turns out his dead wife had a kidney disorder, had many blood transplants, and when they had a baby, the baby died. The baby was born with AIDS. SHe had it too. He then found out he had it. WHat if he hadn't told me? I think one important life's lesson to teach our still young adult children is to be honest about things that are health-related. What if some AIDS infected, HPV infected, Herpes infected or any STD infected woman had sex with your son and hadn't told him? It's not privacy anymore, in my opinion, when you put somebody else at risk to make your own life easier. I consider this a safety issue. It's not about what happened, what didn't happen, when it happened. It is something H. needs to know, regardless of how she finds out. We can not trust our Difficult Child to be brave enough to lay a bombshell like this on their latest hottie. If we know about it, and Terry took him to a pediatrician and was with him for his shot, H. is owed the truth. And I would make sure she got the truth. If Difficult Child wouldn't do it in front of me, I'd tell her or I'd lose many nights of sleep. [/QUOTE]
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