Home from the birthday weekend.

[DammitJanet]

Well...honey I'm HOME!!!! LoL

whew that was one long weekend. We decided to extend it by an extra day when Tony and I realized (much to our chagrin) that today is Jamie's birthday...lol. We felt that because we went up to see Hailie we should at least stay to see our own son on HIS birthday and take him out to breakfast. We did leave immediately after and couldnt wait to get on the road...lol. We spent the night at their place on Sunday night and let me tell you, it is simply a zoo there. Even Tony said he now understands what I mean and we will always stay every night in motel rooms...lmao.

You guys made some good points on my other post about Mikey and the throwing. I do think some may be a game but other parts are his lack of speech and frustration I think. There are some really bizarre parenting skills too though. Billie wants to have her cake and eat it too. She started this odd conversation about religion and the bible and I dont want to get into it but she basically said that because Jamie wont go to HER church, she gets to be the head of the household and make all the financial decisions even though she doesnt work and she gets to not give him sex but that he should work all day and then come home and take care of the kids at night! And that the bible says this...lmao.

This girl sits around all day long on the computer doing as next to nothing as possible, getting everyone else she can to do stuff around the house and for the kids, hoping that Jamie will swing by the house to change Mikey, feed Mikey, or take Hailie out to eat...or she takes the kids to McDonalds to get something to eat so she doesnt have to cook. Half the time they all eat McDonalds every day. If they dont, its because her brother cooks.

You should have heard me, Tony and Jamie roar in laughter though when she said that BS about her being the head of household. I think we laughed so loud the house shook. I actually told her she was crazier than a loon. If she wanted to be head of household she could go work full time and hire a maid and a sitter. A wife is supposed to support her husband and her family and as far as I can see, she does neither. Yeah...I said that.

But yet even though she says all that about sex...she stood there in the middle of the family room and started flexing her butt muscles and jiggling her butt like a porno dancer right in front of all of us on Sunday night! I was appalled. Jamie was like...Billie...STOP! You are embarrassing us and yourself...stop trying to make my daddy aroused! I was so sickened I got up and went outside to smoke a cigarette because I thought it was just in really poor taste. Tony was trying to get her "move Billie, Im trying to see the TV" and Hailie was laughing like it was the funniest thing in town.

Ugh.

 

[Mattsmom277]

Ugh. On the other hand, your husband now says he sees the merits of a hotel during visit so score one for a sanity saving option now available for future visits. I'm glad you were able to have birthday breakfast with Jamie and even though it sounds plenty of things occurred to irk you (with reason) I'm sure it meant a lot to Jamie, which often makes the trials of visits worthwhile in itself. And even though it may not be apparent, the grandkids will have those memories as they grow older that you were there for them. Even if they never get how important and valuable that is, there is always a chance one day they'll look back fondly and gratefully. And if it never happens, inside you can feel good knowing you did your absolute best even when uncomfortable.
Your daughter in law sounds like a total trip. I think every family is fated to have at least one person like her that is intolerable but unfortunately must be tolerated. Sounds like you are finding small ways to make it bearable and i'm glad to hear it. I'm a smoker who wishes I wasnt. I know its a nasty habit. Yet sometimes that "going outside for a smoke" is the greatest life saver in desperate moments isn't is? lol

 

[1905]

Wow...The head of the household, huh? Hysterical!!! She doesn't seem to know to even be ashamed that since she doesn't work ( I know taking care of kids is work), she can at the very least make sure her husband has a hot meal and clean home to come home to. And at the extreme very least, FAKE IT IN FRONT OF HIS PARENTS, so they think you're a sweetie-pie! Jamie's a good man.

I'd say that if nobody accused you of stealing toys or cheese balls, your visit was a success! And you spent some quality time with your son and grandchildren. That's great. Why would someone wiggle their butt at her in-laws? Yuck, but you can at least laugh now.

 

[DDD]

I can't help but laugh at the "not stealing toys" input...that's a riot! Seriously if you weren't a smoker you would need to go outside and slug some Cutty!

I'm glad you survived the visit. Glad you stayed for the birthday breakfast. Darn glad you are home again! Yeah, home!

Has she ever asked you "Are you leaving your good jewelry and china to our daughter?" No??? Just wait! DDD

 

[DammitJanet]

DDD...how funny about the good china! I gave Jamie a set of my mom's china when he married his first wife. He thinks or thought it was this really expensive stuff because it came from her and it said "bone china" and it was very pretty with silver around the rims and pretty pink flowers. Well, it wasnt the good stuff, it was given to her when she opened up an account at some bank in the late 70's but she kept it...lol. It may well have been a nice set of China but it wasnt her favorite. I dont think she ever used it but I gave it to him for a wedding present. He was thrilled. China!!!!

Well, he kept it mostly in boxes wrapped in newspapers but a few plates he displayed over his cabinets. When he met Billie and they moved to the little one bedroom, she assumed it was his first wife's china and she didnt want it so she threw two of the boxes across the room! He got soooooo mad! When he told her where that stuff came from she didnt know whether to poop or go blind. Billie's mom was there when she did it too and she slapped her across the face for doing it. Billie's mom was the one who told me what happened. Jamie told me he tripped going down the stairs and a box fell.

 

[Star*]

I've seen her eat....and it was McDonalds that day too. Matter of fact if she keeps eating McDonalds and junk food like she does you won't have to worry about her flexing any muscles. They'll be buried under several layers of french fries.

I would like the name of her church. I want to attend and become a member. Sounds like a groovy plan to me. Do nothing, cook nothing, lay with nothing, take care of nothing, claim head of household and find it in their bi-laws. Incredible. Wonder if their percentage of tithe is less than 10% too.

Janet all I can say is you have WAY more of everything than I do not to have taken her out. Period.

 

[DammitJanet]

Oh no Star...their tithe is more than 10%...LOL. Its a cult. I think it something like Church on the Rock or something like that in Stafford VA. She had one of those church bulletins at her house on day last Easter and it had three women dressed in Ninja outfits carrying guns on top of this big rock mountain type deal. Jamie wont step into the place because they talk for the first 30 minutes telling you all how you arent giving them enough of your money...lol.

 

[HaoZi]

"move Billie, Im trying to see the TV"

Or as Pops would put it, "Your daddy ain't a glassmaker."

Tell me again why he married her and stays married to her? I must be missing something. And where do I find a man who puts up with all that? I'd like to have one of those.

 

[Star*]

OMG I actually WENT to one of their churches in FL....THe things I can tell you would curl your toenails. I don't know about the ninja costume...but yeah. Visitor was once enough.

 

[Hound dog]

ooooOOOOooohhh, that's an interesting cult........uhh church. Last time I checked Jesus said to turn the other cheek, not mow them down with machine guns. And since when do ninjas use machine guns?? lol

I'm more than a little bewildered that Jamie tolerates this stuff from her. She's way over the top. Makes one wonder if she's holding the kids over his head (in if you leave you'll never see them again) to keep him under her thumb. Not many guys would put up with such such omg "junk". And so many guys fall for this line of bull until they're so fed up they no longer care.

I am the "head of the household". But I also do about 90 percent of the stuff around here. lol And I don't treat my husband and kids like crud either.

I am glad that Tony has seen the light, though. And probably much more than he desired to see. geez I'm glad you were able to spend time with hallie and mikey and Jamie too for his birthday breakfast.

I'm with Star. I'd have taken her out by now.

 

[LittleDudesMom]

Wow Janet.

You should have scheduled a "cold soda and potty stop" at my house on the way back south!

Sharon

 

[DammitJanet]

Sharon we seriously thought about it but since we didnt sleep much at all on Sunday night on the sofa, we were so tired we just wanted to get home as fast as possible. The only stopping I did do was we getting off in Hanover to get some fresh produce. I came home loaded down with Hanover tomatoes, fresh corn, VA peaches, and two jars of fresh butters-one cherry and one pumpkin.

So yummy.

 

[Shari]

I want to join her church...

 

[klmno]

Welcome home!!

I think I've known a few men who must attend church the same church.

I can't believe you had the ****s to say that to her. LOL!

I wondered tho- do they have the theory that ignoring bad behavior in a young baby/child will deter it?

 

[DammitJanet]

My take on the discipline in the house is that Billie "thinks" she is doing it by yelling at the kids in a very loud voice and pointing and then getting very very aggravated and then screaming at them "okay then, fine, just do it, I dont care, break it. Just wait until your daddy gets home and I will let him know what you did."

Then Jamie gets home and he is tired so he gets an earful about what monsters the kids have been and he is expected to immediately start changing diapers or making sippy cups before he even changes out of his uniform or takes off his gunbelt. His basic answer is "huh, well, whatever." He grabs a soda, a sippy cup and a diaper and sits down in the den to cool off.

So the kids are running around with no discipline at all except for getting yelled at by mommy until she reaches her limit when she smacks them and screams bloody murder. Now granted, I was there years ago and I learned that didnt work at all. When I said I spanked, that isnt what I mean. To me a spanking is given in a controlled manner, not in an all out rage.

They DO not like it when Tony and I try to give pointers...lol. Jamie tries to say things like we did things x way or stuff but I tell him we did learn a thing or two along the way and when we knew better we did better so maybe they should consider our experience.

 

[klmno]

Oh, now I get it. She's my mother's clone. Watch out for those kids' safety as they get a little older, that's all I can say.

 

[Hound dog]

Ditto klmno.

 

[trinityroyal]

Whew. Welcome home.

I wonder...perhaps Billie wasn't trying to impress with her backside flexing. Perhaps she was just trying to dislodge her head, which had gotten stuck?

Trinity

 

[DammitJanet]

OMGosh Trinity...you win! I will forever more have that visual to keep me smiling whenever I have to see/speak or even think about her again. You just saved the day!