ok, my son has been at an Residential Treatment Center (RTC) since winter. he is on a home visit.the plan was for him to be w me. (his dad and i divorced when he was in kindergarten.) he ended up staying at his dad's. I visited him at his Residential Treatment Center (RTC), and we have been having family therapy sessions over the phone since he was admitted. They say he is doing very well. ok - home visit time, he stayed one night with me and then went to his dad's - he has a week's visit. He and his dad are planning to grow marijuana for profit. It is legal here - so unless they do something stupid they should be ok. What I am worried about - he seems to have forgotten about me - I messaged him (he doesn't have a working cell phone) and he just has given me one or two word answers. He is borderline rude. No, i don't speak to his father - his father was controlling and verbally abusive and was devastated when i left him and does not speak to me. I will call his therapist Monday. I am just concerned that my son has some kind of personality disorder - maybe a soft antisocial (the Residential Treatment Center (RTC) said he has a conscience). They have not come up w a diagnosis, the latest was autism, but now they are getting away from that. He just has a flat affect and is consumed w growing marijuana. I am ok w it, likely a huge industry is going to open up. When he smiles, he looks adorable. Another thing - i am seeing a therapist about my childhood experiences. I have no memories of being loved or nurtured as a child. I have disassociated (felt unreal) a lot - less as I age, or feel secure in where i am). My therapist thinks I projected my needs onto my kids - love and reassurance, pretty much, because that is what I needed. But maybe they needed limits. I am worried the dye is cast - oh, and the plan was for the visit to mostly be with me, and for him to be sent home to live with me. I understand a young man needing his father...i just don't know what to think and hoping he has a good life.