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Homeless 46 year old daughter and a son in jail
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<blockquote data-quote="Kalahou" data-source="post: 695307" data-attributes="member: 19617"><p>Jodie ~ I do hope this is a turning point, as you are hopeful it is. I have over the years received similar texts from my son, when he temporarily (for perhaps a few weeks) did seem to be getting his act together (getting a job, expressing love and appreciation to us), only to fall back into his previous irresponsible and untrustworthy ways. It’s a roller coaster.</p><p></p><p>A few times over past years I got similar texts. Once I got a text on Thanksgiving Day expressing a similar gesture as this heartwarming greeting you received, and my older son (Difficult Child’s brother) who was with me at the time, received the same text message and made a comment “ <em>Whoa!</em> <em>What the heck is he on …?”) </em>I know when Difficult Child son sent the message he meant it, but .... then easily swayed to other behaviors ....</p><p><em> </em></p><p>At the present, my son (<em>mid 30s - no young kid</em>) is recently released from jail on a court probation program and living in a sober house. The sober house is a real bit of a dump, but the program and folks there seem on a path to progress, and son also has the daily court program to attend. When I have seen him over the past weeks, he is now speaking some good, encouraging comments to me that “the<em> program is the priority … must stick with the program…" </em>I understand he has some limited work schedule, curfews, classes, etc. He says he wants to do good. …. (I truly think the fear of having to go straight back to jail and possible conviction (<em>if he messes up</em>) is the prime motivating factor. <em>But I'll take that as a motivator right now !!</em> )</p><p></p><p>I lift the best for my son, but I am cautious now. (My heart has become calloused as protection.) I love him, but I hesitate to build enlarged hope and gladness in my heart. I stay thankful for one day at a time. I don't grab hold of his "good words" or "his job" at the present. <strong>I will wait and see what his actions over the long-haul show </strong>and see the evidence of his true commitment and results of his efforts.</p><p></p><p>I am with you, Jodie, in giving thanks for your girl. Holding you and you daughter in best thoughts.</p><p>Be glad for the new day ~ <em> Ka la hou </em>...</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Kalahou, post: 695307, member: 19617"] Jodie ~ I do hope this is a turning point, as you are hopeful it is. I have over the years received similar texts from my son, when he temporarily (for perhaps a few weeks) did seem to be getting his act together (getting a job, expressing love and appreciation to us), only to fall back into his previous irresponsible and untrustworthy ways. It’s a roller coaster. A few times over past years I got similar texts. Once I got a text on Thanksgiving Day expressing a similar gesture as this heartwarming greeting you received, and my older son (Difficult Child’s brother) who was with me at the time, received the same text message and made a comment “ [I]Whoa![/I] [I]What the heck is he on …?”) [/I]I know when Difficult Child son sent the message he meant it, but .... then easily swayed to other behaviors .... [I] [/I] At the present, my son ([I]mid 30s - no young kid[/I]) is recently released from jail on a court probation program and living in a sober house. The sober house is a real bit of a dump, but the program and folks there seem on a path to progress, and son also has the daily court program to attend. When I have seen him over the past weeks, he is now speaking some good, encouraging comments to me that “the[I] program is the priority … must stick with the program…" [/I]I understand he has some limited work schedule, curfews, classes, etc. He says he wants to do good. …. (I truly think the fear of having to go straight back to jail and possible conviction ([I]if he messes up[/I]) is the prime motivating factor. [I]But I'll take that as a motivator right now !![/I] ) I lift the best for my son, but I am cautious now. (My heart has become calloused as protection.) I love him, but I hesitate to build enlarged hope and gladness in my heart. I stay thankful for one day at a time. I don't grab hold of his "good words" or "his job" at the present. [B]I will wait and see what his actions over the long-haul show [/B]and see the evidence of his true commitment and results of his efforts. I am with you, Jodie, in giving thanks for your girl. Holding you and you daughter in best thoughts. Be glad for the new day ~ [I] Ka la hou [/I]... [/QUOTE]
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