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Homeless and facing 5 charges with my 20yr.old son
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<blockquote data-quote="Stress Bunny" data-source="post: 630229" data-attributes="member: 4855"><p>Worried, I sense that you are getting stronger, though you are still indulging your worries about your son's situation, much more than your son seems concerned about it himself. What does that tell you about your son's ability to accept responsibility for his actions?</p><p></p><p>Reading the police report hurts you and does not help your son either. I'm sorry you are going through this. Please do not bail out your son physically, financially, or emotionally from these consequences. He is an adult addict, and HE needs to seek recovery when HE is ready. Of course, he is much more likely to seek treatment and work toward self sufficiency when HIS problems truly become HIS problems and not yours.</p><p></p><p>Who cares how it looks that he is homeless? Your son's homelessness is an effect of his addiction, as is his joblessness. Until he recovers from his drug addiction, he will continue to have all sorts of problems in his life. If you try to sugarcoat your son's situation, you are participating in keeping him where he is at. The truth is, your son will probably have a better chance at future success if he does go to jail where he will be safe and forced to live drug free. So don't try to reduce the consequences for him, directly or indirectly. Remember that you didn't cause this, and you cannot fix your son's drug addiction problem. Once you accept that you cannot fix this, you can let go of the control and focus on fixing you.</p><p></p><p>COM has been around the block, so listen to her wisdom. Focus your energies on what you can change, which is you. You can work on yourself so that regardless of what your son does or does not do in the future, you can live a joyful and peaceful life.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Stress Bunny, post: 630229, member: 4855"] Worried, I sense that you are getting stronger, though you are still indulging your worries about your son's situation, much more than your son seems concerned about it himself. What does that tell you about your son's ability to accept responsibility for his actions? Reading the police report hurts you and does not help your son either. I'm sorry you are going through this. Please do not bail out your son physically, financially, or emotionally from these consequences. He is an adult addict, and HE needs to seek recovery when HE is ready. Of course, he is much more likely to seek treatment and work toward self sufficiency when HIS problems truly become HIS problems and not yours. Who cares how it looks that he is homeless? Your son's homelessness is an effect of his addiction, as is his joblessness. Until he recovers from his drug addiction, he will continue to have all sorts of problems in his life. If you try to sugarcoat your son's situation, you are participating in keeping him where he is at. The truth is, your son will probably have a better chance at future success if he does go to jail where he will be safe and forced to live drug free. So don't try to reduce the consequences for him, directly or indirectly. Remember that you didn't cause this, and you cannot fix your son's drug addiction problem. Once you accept that you cannot fix this, you can let go of the control and focus on fixing you. COM has been around the block, so listen to her wisdom. Focus your energies on what you can change, which is you. You can work on yourself so that regardless of what your son does or does not do in the future, you can live a joyful and peaceful life. [/QUOTE]
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