Hello, I have not been able to post lately, because of some medical issues but wanted to just write a few notes here. My son was finally transferred to a prison in nw Indiana, where he will serve his time, and go to a rehab program supposedly. He called me on a 1 minute free call to tell me that I have to fill out a new application to visit since I took my maiden name back since he was in there before and that jpay is now the only way to send money. The call ended so no real conversation was able to happen. My daughter is still working in Missouri, and taking care of herself. I have been doing better at detaching from all this, until I got a call from my son's probation officer wanting information on the house that he set the meth fire in, which is now damaged and he was ordered to make restitution to his grandmother for those damages. I told her this was my ex's mother, and she is now deceased, the state attempting to take lien on the house in lieu of payment due from nursing home (state asset recovery for medicaid) and has nothing to do with the meth fire. And that I have no contact with the ex to know any more. Needless to say I started obsessing again about how bleak his future is going to be when he does get out. He is 48 years ok, 2 felony drug convictions and no family to help. I am so sick thinking of how damaged his life is, he can't get an apartment, or help with food stamps, and a job will be very hard to get also. The family has to watch this and suffer knowing how hard he will have it. How do I detach from this? Any one have any helpful posts? Thanks.