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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 699384" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>Jodie, try to learn how to <u>not</u> run out in to the future, it will only make you anxious and depressed. The best advice I can offer you is to stay in the present moment, in the NOW......many of us here have had to avert disasters brought to us by our kids.... believing we can control the outcome, the future....... but we don't have the power to do that, we don't have that kind of control......and certainly worrying about it doesn't do anyone any good. There are many, many stories about how folks turned their lives around after prison, drug addiction, alcoholism, homelessness.......your son may be one of those folks. Whether he is or he isn't, you worrying about it isn't going to help him. While he is in prison, you can learn how to let go of the outcome, how to live in the present, how to stop worrying and find joy in your life. Don't continue down the road of fear about the future, none of us know how it's going to turn out.</p><p></p><p>What helped me is reading books like The power of now by Eckhart Tolle and any book by Pema Chodron, which helped me to learn how to live in uncertainty and not ruminate about the unknown. It's a practice, it takes time, but we can learn how to let go and accept what is and still live in peace. You've been at this a long time and now it's patterned thinking, you're used to catastrophe, but you can get <u><em>Unused</em></u> to it too.......get support for yourself, do something kind and nurturing for yourself.......</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 699384, member: 13542"] Jodie, try to learn how to [U]not[/U] run out in to the future, it will only make you anxious and depressed. The best advice I can offer you is to stay in the present moment, in the NOW......many of us here have had to avert disasters brought to us by our kids.... believing we can control the outcome, the future....... but we don't have the power to do that, we don't have that kind of control......and certainly worrying about it doesn't do anyone any good. There are many, many stories about how folks turned their lives around after prison, drug addiction, alcoholism, homelessness.......your son may be one of those folks. Whether he is or he isn't, you worrying about it isn't going to help him. While he is in prison, you can learn how to let go of the outcome, how to live in the present, how to stop worrying and find joy in your life. Don't continue down the road of fear about the future, none of us know how it's going to turn out. What helped me is reading books like The power of now by Eckhart Tolle and any book by Pema Chodron, which helped me to learn how to live in uncertainty and not ruminate about the unknown. It's a practice, it takes time, but we can learn how to let go and accept what is and still live in peace. You've been at this a long time and now it's patterned thinking, you're used to catastrophe, but you can get [U][I]Unused[/I][/U] to it too.......get support for yourself, do something kind and nurturing for yourself....... [/QUOTE]
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