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<blockquote data-quote="Weary Mother" data-source="post: 700815" data-attributes="member: 20487"><p>Somewhereoutthere: You are right you would think, but one of his things is that he has has other people to lean on most of these years,and hasn't had to face sleeping in a laundromat or walmart, not that he hasn't had the street life and know about some of this. As his drug use progressed and he got older people bailed out on him and he eventually ended up sleeping in that shed, with a cocaine addict girlfriend in below zero weather worrying his dad and I to death. But for example, I got a call from his fathers girlfriend the other day, says she got an email from him saying that I had not replied to his email sent a few days prior and that he has been sitting in the intake dorm in the prison since early in September, not being transferred to the drug program but that all the other guys have been sent on, leaving him wondering why and would she tell me to call and find out why. Well, in his life he has had girlfriends, wife's, or others to do this, and I admit that possibly I have been guilty of being suckered into it at times too. But this time I emailed him and asked him why he couldn't ask his own counselor himself. I also told him to quit wasting money sending these kind of requests because his dad and I are busy working, his dad is 70 and I am 66. I also told him that since I have no computer at home and was out of town he needed to stop being so demanding about getting a response. Well, of course he emails back with this, gee mom I'm sorry you are so mad at me for asking this but all the guys have asked the girlfriend or mothers and it seemed to help get them moved along. As I said, he has had a long long history of quilting people into doing things for him that he should do for himself and now that I am asking him to not be helpless and do for himself, he will have a huge adjustment. But I am not in prison and I don't have to spend all my time worrying about his stuff, he does. And thank God for this forum and for other self help groups for myself.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Weary Mother, post: 700815, member: 20487"] Somewhereoutthere: You are right you would think, but one of his things is that he has has other people to lean on most of these years,and hasn't had to face sleeping in a laundromat or walmart, not that he hasn't had the street life and know about some of this. As his drug use progressed and he got older people bailed out on him and he eventually ended up sleeping in that shed, with a cocaine addict girlfriend in below zero weather worrying his dad and I to death. But for example, I got a call from his fathers girlfriend the other day, says she got an email from him saying that I had not replied to his email sent a few days prior and that he has been sitting in the intake dorm in the prison since early in September, not being transferred to the drug program but that all the other guys have been sent on, leaving him wondering why and would she tell me to call and find out why. Well, in his life he has had girlfriends, wife's, or others to do this, and I admit that possibly I have been guilty of being suckered into it at times too. But this time I emailed him and asked him why he couldn't ask his own counselor himself. I also told him to quit wasting money sending these kind of requests because his dad and I are busy working, his dad is 70 and I am 66. I also told him that since I have no computer at home and was out of town he needed to stop being so demanding about getting a response. Well, of course he emails back with this, gee mom I'm sorry you are so mad at me for asking this but all the guys have asked the girlfriend or mothers and it seemed to help get them moved along. As I said, he has had a long long history of quilting people into doing things for him that he should do for himself and now that I am asking him to not be helpless and do for himself, he will have a huge adjustment. But I am not in prison and I don't have to spend all my time worrying about his stuff, he does. And thank God for this forum and for other self help groups for myself. [/QUOTE]
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