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<blockquote data-quote="TheWalrus" data-source="post: 679845" data-attributes="member: 19905"><p>My daughter also has Borderline (BPD) along with some other very serious health issues she brought on herself. She has attempted suicided several times, is drug addicted, can't/won't keep a job...I know where you are coming from.</p><p></p><p>We didn't learn about her addictions and mental illness until her nearly successful suicide attempt, and we got a temporary guardianship to make medical decisions. I went through the process of getting her on disability bc I knew she never would. I was only able to do that bc I had the guardianship, and I did it for myself so I could lay my head down at night knowing I had done at least that much.</p><p></p><p>Legally, with the guardianship expired, I can do no more. I cannot make her go to rehab, drug counseling, medical appointments, psychiatric appointments...I cannot make her take her medicine, stop doing drugs, or pay her own bills...she is legally an adult and regardless of her mental state, she can legally make her own choices.</p><p></p><p>What I CAN do is take care of myself by not spinning my wheels in a situation I have no control over. I can choose not to enable her bad choices, which I no longer do. I can choose not to "fix" her mistakes instead let her experience her own consequences, which I do.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TheWalrus, post: 679845, member: 19905"] My daughter also has Borderline (BPD) along with some other very serious health issues she brought on herself. She has attempted suicided several times, is drug addicted, can't/won't keep a job...I know where you are coming from. We didn't learn about her addictions and mental illness until her nearly successful suicide attempt, and we got a temporary guardianship to make medical decisions. I went through the process of getting her on disability bc I knew she never would. I was only able to do that bc I had the guardianship, and I did it for myself so I could lay my head down at night knowing I had done at least that much. Legally, with the guardianship expired, I can do no more. I cannot make her go to rehab, drug counseling, medical appointments, psychiatric appointments...I cannot make her take her medicine, stop doing drugs, or pay her own bills...she is legally an adult and regardless of her mental state, she can legally make her own choices. What I CAN do is take care of myself by not spinning my wheels in a situation I have no control over. I can choose not to enable her bad choices, which I no longer do. I can choose not to "fix" her mistakes instead let her experience her own consequences, which I do. [/QUOTE]
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