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<blockquote data-quote="tryagain" data-source="post: 636155" data-attributes="member: 14865"><p>LucyJ and Guideme, I really do appreciate your listening. And I wish it were as simple as saying "let her do her own thing and make it on her own". She is free to express herself through art with tons of spare time since she only works a few hours a few days a week (when employed) and recently only had the one class. No other responsibilities. Yet she will not even do her own art. Her aunt commissioned a piece from her nearly a year ago and she has yet to even begin work on it. She does very little. </p><p></p><p>She does see a P-doctor which we are glad to pay for and we also pay for her medications, which we just hope she is taking-the last suicide attempt was devastating. She could not receive better family support, but we are the only people who can put up with her for more than a few months because she drives people away when she has the dreaded mood swings. </p><p></p><p>We ensure that she has her own place to live because it was a living nightmare having her under our roof. It truly was a reign of terror where she would attack me physically and destroy things. </p><p></p><p>Her jobs so far have only lasted a few months because her work ethic is very poor and she will call in with excuses not to go. I wish it were as simple as saying "let her make her own way", but she has not proven capable of doing this. </p><p></p><p>We are coming to realize that she will probably be dependent on us or others always because of her illness, since she does not like to work or even use her creative skills, & cannot get along with others. Our other alternative is to shut her out completely, but for all of her shortcomings, she still loves her family. She blends in just well enough that she "draws you in" and causes you to have that cruel thing called "hope". </p><p></p><p>Thus, when she has expressed interest in furthering herself through some sort of education, be it the usual path or vo-technical, we have been glad to help her try to get focused on some sort of career path. But I am realizing that this may never happen, and am just having to "lean into it" as Child of Mine might say.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="tryagain, post: 636155, member: 14865"] LucyJ and Guideme, I really do appreciate your listening. And I wish it were as simple as saying "let her do her own thing and make it on her own". She is free to express herself through art with tons of spare time since she only works a few hours a few days a week (when employed) and recently only had the one class. No other responsibilities. Yet she will not even do her own art. Her aunt commissioned a piece from her nearly a year ago and she has yet to even begin work on it. She does very little. She does see a P-doctor which we are glad to pay for and we also pay for her medications, which we just hope she is taking-the last suicide attempt was devastating. She could not receive better family support, but we are the only people who can put up with her for more than a few months because she drives people away when she has the dreaded mood swings. We ensure that she has her own place to live because it was a living nightmare having her under our roof. It truly was a reign of terror where she would attack me physically and destroy things. Her jobs so far have only lasted a few months because her work ethic is very poor and she will call in with excuses not to go. I wish it were as simple as saying "let her make her own way", but she has not proven capable of doing this. We are coming to realize that she will probably be dependent on us or others always because of her illness, since she does not like to work or even use her creative skills, & cannot get along with others. Our other alternative is to shut her out completely, but for all of her shortcomings, she still loves her family. She blends in just well enough that she "draws you in" and causes you to have that cruel thing called "hope". Thus, when she has expressed interest in furthering herself through some sort of education, be it the usual path or vo-technical, we have been glad to help her try to get focused on some sort of career path. But I am realizing that this may never happen, and am just having to "lean into it" as Child of Mine might say. [/QUOTE]
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