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<blockquote data-quote="neednewtechnique" data-source="post: 39655" data-attributes="member: 3527"><p>This article has it's points, however, I think that it certainly is somewhat offbase. As most of the others who replied, it hit close to home for me. Our difficult child moved in with us in January. She had been in the custody of CPS since February of 2005. Their original plan was to "return her home within a year". She was originally going to be returned to her bio mom and they were trying this "intense family preservation" idea, but they were doing it with the child outside the home because Bio mom was in prison. During the course of bio mom being in prison, my husband made his request that our difficult child be moved in with us (my husband's daughter). They asked us to go through some things first since my husband had never had custody of her before, but they said that if they could return her to us, they would. And the did. Thankfully, they did make the right choice, becuase even after bio mother went through the "family preservation" stuff, prison, AND drug rehab, we thought things were just looking good for our difficult child and her bio mom to rebuild their relationship. CPS was allowing her unsupervised visitation with her mom and they only managed 2 unsupervised visits before bio mom was put back in Jail because she was using again.</p><p></p><p>I guess that I think they should DEFINITELY try to keep these kids with their parents, but in cases where they have had several chances to rehabilitate themselves and DON'T, it is time for the child to GO. Luckily for our difficult child, she did NOT have to spend the rest of her adolescense in "the system" because my husband and I are MORE than FIT to raise her. Even still, I would rather have seen her end up in foster care than stay with her mom. </p><p></p><p>If it is a one time ordeal and parents are willing an able to help themselves rehabilitate, YES let them keep their kids, but if it happens again, the child is better off someplace else...</p><p></p><p>I think maybe it is easier for me to say this becuase I see how traumatized our difficult child is because of everything her drugged up mother put her through while she was growing up...but I think that they need to use discretion on leaving a child with their BIO parents just to avoid putting them in foster care.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="neednewtechnique, post: 39655, member: 3527"] This article has it's points, however, I think that it certainly is somewhat offbase. As most of the others who replied, it hit close to home for me. Our difficult child moved in with us in January. She had been in the custody of CPS since February of 2005. Their original plan was to "return her home within a year". She was originally going to be returned to her bio mom and they were trying this "intense family preservation" idea, but they were doing it with the child outside the home because Bio mom was in prison. During the course of bio mom being in prison, my husband made his request that our difficult child be moved in with us (my husband's daughter). They asked us to go through some things first since my husband had never had custody of her before, but they said that if they could return her to us, they would. And the did. Thankfully, they did make the right choice, becuase even after bio mother went through the "family preservation" stuff, prison, AND drug rehab, we thought things were just looking good for our difficult child and her bio mom to rebuild their relationship. CPS was allowing her unsupervised visitation with her mom and they only managed 2 unsupervised visits before bio mom was put back in Jail because she was using again. I guess that I think they should DEFINITELY try to keep these kids with their parents, but in cases where they have had several chances to rehabilitate themselves and DON'T, it is time for the child to GO. Luckily for our difficult child, she did NOT have to spend the rest of her adolescense in "the system" because my husband and I are MORE than FIT to raise her. Even still, I would rather have seen her end up in foster care than stay with her mom. If it is a one time ordeal and parents are willing an able to help themselves rehabilitate, YES let them keep their kids, but if it happens again, the child is better off someplace else... I think maybe it is easier for me to say this becuase I see how traumatized our difficult child is because of everything her drugged up mother put her through while she was growing up...but I think that they need to use discretion on leaving a child with their BIO parents just to avoid putting them in foster care. [/QUOTE]
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