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<blockquote data-quote="witzend" data-source="post: 42775" data-attributes="member: 99"><p>I hate to admit it but I was a yeller for a time as well. I began to figure out that this is what M wanted because it fed into his circular thinking about being "bad". If I yelled at him it must be because he's bad, so he can be bad because I yell at him because he's bad. </p><p></p><p>It turned around when I began to look at us as individuals. I was happy with everything in my life but him. I couldn't change him (he was only 8 - 9 at the time) only he could change him. I could be happy and not play into his anger, and hopefully one day he would become happy. (It hasn't happened yet.) But in the meantime, I was setting a good example by being happy, and I was not buying into his unhappiness.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="witzend, post: 42775, member: 99"] I hate to admit it but I was a yeller for a time as well. I began to figure out that this is what M wanted because it fed into his circular thinking about being "bad". If I yelled at him it must be because he's bad, so he can be bad because I yell at him because he's bad. It turned around when I began to look at us as individuals. I was happy with everything in my life but him. I couldn't change him (he was only 8 - 9 at the time) only he could change him. I could be happy and not play into his anger, and hopefully one day he would become happy. (It hasn't happened yet.) But in the meantime, I was setting a good example by being happy, and I was not buying into his unhappiness. [/QUOTE]
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