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How can I leave my dysfunctional marriage?
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 640708" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Do you want custody of the children? If so, you need somewhere to go first and you must take the kids with you or he can say you abandoned them and go for custody. Now he may NOT want them, but if you think he does, be careful. I learned a little bit about custody when my son went through a divorce and a successful custody battle for joint legal/physical and 50% of the time with his son, and one thing you do if you don't want to lose custody is you never ever abandon your children to the ex. If you do, then your ex will have a great chance of getting a bigger chunk of custody and rights to the kids than you, and he doesn't sound like he would do a very good job of that. Do you have friends or family who understand and can help?</p><p></p><p>It sometimes takes planning and saving money and getting a job and having it in the back of your mind that this is for the future before you are actually in a position to leave. I had to plan for three years as I had no family to depend on and only one close, close friend who I didn't want to put too much upon. Now if the jerk is abusing you, that's different. Call the police and get a report...I'm not sure if they can make him leave the house, but it's worth a try. You can't stay or leave the kids with a violent man. If he is just mean, I'd get into therapy, try to avoid him ASAP, and plan your moves. Won't hurt to talk to a lawyer. Most first meetings are free.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 640708, member: 1550"] Do you want custody of the children? If so, you need somewhere to go first and you must take the kids with you or he can say you abandoned them and go for custody. Now he may NOT want them, but if you think he does, be careful. I learned a little bit about custody when my son went through a divorce and a successful custody battle for joint legal/physical and 50% of the time with his son, and one thing you do if you don't want to lose custody is you never ever abandon your children to the ex. If you do, then your ex will have a great chance of getting a bigger chunk of custody and rights to the kids than you, and he doesn't sound like he would do a very good job of that. Do you have friends or family who understand and can help? It sometimes takes planning and saving money and getting a job and having it in the back of your mind that this is for the future before you are actually in a position to leave. I had to plan for three years as I had no family to depend on and only one close, close friend who I didn't want to put too much upon. Now if the jerk is abusing you, that's different. Call the police and get a report...I'm not sure if they can make him leave the house, but it's worth a try. You can't stay or leave the kids with a violent man. If he is just mean, I'd get into therapy, try to avoid him ASAP, and plan your moves. Won't hurt to talk to a lawyer. Most first meetings are free. [/QUOTE]
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