hi
im posting alot this weekend i know. we've been locked up for 2 dys. now
anyway i've been battling with older difficult child regarding little one. when i say battling i mean trying to get her to not engage to come to me if there's a problem between teh both of them.
it gets to the point where i can't even go to the bathroom the two of them are at eachothers' throats little difficult child almost always starts it.
i've told my older daughter time and time again read up on stuff with me how about we go together to a support group? offered her a break by staying with family for a few days to relieve herself of the stress of little difficult child. it's really starting to get to her.
house rule is:
when little difficult child goes after her verbaly to simply come get me not engage (which iknow is hard) and i will deal with her the little one.
yet she never ever listens.. few weekends ago got so bad i was out of sight for like 3 min in bathroom and little difficult child started verbally attacking older one and older one got so frustrated she grabbed little difficult child and threw her to floor. totally unacceptable.
so i sat with both of them first together then seperately after time out so they could both calm down. i posted house rules on wall.
i said why do you do this?? i know how to handle her not you. why do you keep engaging she isnt going to stop being relentless and lay off you. i know your frustrated but i'm here to help you. come get me when she goes after you instead of taking matters in to your own hands nothing good comes from it each and every time. i said look we both know there's obviously more at play here than your typical annoying little sister syndrome and i'm working hard on solving it for all of us to relieve the pressure.
so today she cried alot. little difficult child went and tattled on her for soemthing and older one blew up and cried. said i hate my sister i'm sick of dealing with this you dont share a room with her you don't know how she can be. i said i understand how you feel i can appreciate your frustration level and i'm not mad at you. just asking you to get me to help you stop taking her on by yourself you'll never get anywhere good with it you'l ljust aggrivate yourself more.
so how do you guys do it if you have situation with siblings similar to this??
i've tried varoius approach's at this point like i said i'm just holding out till figure which direction to go into. it is become very clear to me this child needs medications. we are all feeling the pressure now even boyfriend who isn't home due to constantly working he wonders every nigth what he's going to walk into. he's been quite tolerant and patient i may say yet it gets frustrating as i'm sure many of you know. it affects an entire household.
thanks!!
jen
im posting alot this weekend i know. we've been locked up for 2 dys. now
anyway i've been battling with older difficult child regarding little one. when i say battling i mean trying to get her to not engage to come to me if there's a problem between teh both of them.
it gets to the point where i can't even go to the bathroom the two of them are at eachothers' throats little difficult child almost always starts it.
i've told my older daughter time and time again read up on stuff with me how about we go together to a support group? offered her a break by staying with family for a few days to relieve herself of the stress of little difficult child. it's really starting to get to her.
house rule is:
when little difficult child goes after her verbaly to simply come get me not engage (which iknow is hard) and i will deal with her the little one.
yet she never ever listens.. few weekends ago got so bad i was out of sight for like 3 min in bathroom and little difficult child started verbally attacking older one and older one got so frustrated she grabbed little difficult child and threw her to floor. totally unacceptable.
so i sat with both of them first together then seperately after time out so they could both calm down. i posted house rules on wall.
i said why do you do this?? i know how to handle her not you. why do you keep engaging she isnt going to stop being relentless and lay off you. i know your frustrated but i'm here to help you. come get me when she goes after you instead of taking matters in to your own hands nothing good comes from it each and every time. i said look we both know there's obviously more at play here than your typical annoying little sister syndrome and i'm working hard on solving it for all of us to relieve the pressure.
so today she cried alot. little difficult child went and tattled on her for soemthing and older one blew up and cried. said i hate my sister i'm sick of dealing with this you dont share a room with her you don't know how she can be. i said i understand how you feel i can appreciate your frustration level and i'm not mad at you. just asking you to get me to help you stop taking her on by yourself you'll never get anywhere good with it you'l ljust aggrivate yourself more.
so how do you guys do it if you have situation with siblings similar to this??
i've tried varoius approach's at this point like i said i'm just holding out till figure which direction to go into. it is become very clear to me this child needs medications. we are all feeling the pressure now even boyfriend who isn't home due to constantly working he wonders every nigth what he's going to walk into. he's been quite tolerant and patient i may say yet it gets frustrating as i'm sure many of you know. it affects an entire household.
thanks!!
jen