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How did I not see detachment right in front of me?
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<blockquote data-quote="Cheerwyn" data-source="post: 703175" data-attributes="member: 12395"><p>I mostly just read this forum and absorb its wonderful advice, but your struggle hits very close to home, OP. In my case it's my mother in law and helping my husband deal with her.</p><p></p><p>One technique in detachment is called Grey Rock. Become the Grey Rock. Rather than flame out with a huge argument with the difficult person, just be the most boring, unengaging, meh person you can be. People with borderline, narcissisic, anti-social, and histrionic traits feed off of the drama and look to constantly engage and provoke to fill their own bottomless pit of need.</p><p></p><p>So if you're the most boring, non-dramatic grey rock around, they will move on to more shinier objects.</p><p></p><p>This blog post explains it pretty well, and if you google there are some other posts out there.</p><p></p><p><a href="http://www.lovefraud.com/2012/02/10/the-gray-rock-method-of-dealing-with-psychopaths/" target="_blank">http://www.lovefraud.com/2012/02/10/the-gray-rock-method-of-dealing-with-psychopaths/</a></p><p></p><p>The post addresses sociopathic behavior, but it really can be helpful in dealing with other personality disorders.</p><p></p><p>All the best to you, OP.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Cheerwyn, post: 703175, member: 12395"] I mostly just read this forum and absorb its wonderful advice, but your struggle hits very close to home, OP. In my case it's my mother in law and helping my husband deal with her. One technique in detachment is called Grey Rock. Become the Grey Rock. Rather than flame out with a huge argument with the difficult person, just be the most boring, unengaging, meh person you can be. People with borderline, narcissisic, anti-social, and histrionic traits feed off of the drama and look to constantly engage and provoke to fill their own bottomless pit of need. So if you're the most boring, non-dramatic grey rock around, they will move on to more shinier objects. This blog post explains it pretty well, and if you google there are some other posts out there. [URL]http://www.lovefraud.com/2012/02/10/the-gray-rock-method-of-dealing-with-psychopaths/[/URL] The post addresses sociopathic behavior, but it really can be helpful in dealing with other personality disorders. All the best to you, OP. [/QUOTE]
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