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How do I fight the guilt???
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<blockquote data-quote="jbrain" data-source="post: 45909" data-attributes="member: 3450"><p>I used to feel that way too--how could I be happy if my dtr was unhappy? I have gotten over that and one of the things that helped is that our kids need us to be strong, stable, mentally healthy people--it is the best thing we can do for them. To have a parent who is depressed or falling apart does no good for anybody.</p><p></p><p>Also, we are separate people--when we are enmeshed with others we take away their rights to be responsible for their own success and happiness. Do you really want to place that burden on your dtr--that unless she is happy you can't be happy? That makes her responsible for your feelings and that is too big a burden for a kid.</p><p></p><p>Hope this helps a little--know it is hard--</p><p>Jane</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="jbrain, post: 45909, member: 3450"] I used to feel that way too--how could I be happy if my dtr was unhappy? I have gotten over that and one of the things that helped is that our kids need us to be strong, stable, mentally healthy people--it is the best thing we can do for them. To have a parent who is depressed or falling apart does no good for anybody. Also, we are separate people--when we are enmeshed with others we take away their rights to be responsible for their own success and happiness. Do you really want to place that burden on your dtr--that unless she is happy you can't be happy? That makes her responsible for your feelings and that is too big a burden for a kid. Hope this helps a little--know it is hard-- Jane [/QUOTE]
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