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How do I help my mentally ill 20 year old?
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 723863" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I dont know where you live to give you feedback for possible help...each country is different. If you were in the U.S. i would recommend a neuropsychological evaluation for her (psychologist with training in the workings of the brain) to see if Daughter was perhaps misdiagnosed.</p><p></p><p>I have been a mental health patient since age 23 and I am now 64. I have no professional credentials, but I do know a laymans knowledge of certain disorders due to my own extensive research for myself and a child I have with special needs. Borderlines are normally moody, bossy, abusive, mean and then nice, and have a huge fear of abandonment. Altjough I am again no expert I never read about fear of people and socializing as a symptom. Poor boundaries, yes. Leaving relationships then begging people back, yes. Read the book "i Hate you, Dont Leave Me" (On kindle) to see if this sounds like your daughter or not. Diagnosticians are often wrong. I have had MANY tell me that since there are no blood tests, they can only guess. A psychologist from our esteemed Mayo Clinic, told me, and I quote almost exactly, "we misdiagnose all the time, even at Mayo. There is no way to know for sure. It is our best guess."</p><p></p><p>Now...again I am no expert, but perhaps you should look up high functioning autism/Aspergers. My son has this. It is a social glitch and developme tal delay, although often the people are academically bright to brilliant, and the social deficits can can cause great despair. It can block the person from living a normal life, even if the person is smart. It is a disorder one is born with and great strides can be made with correct treatment. To me, not a professional, your daughter sounds more like the struggles my son had than all I have read about borderline. Perhaps...just maybe....your daughter is being treated for the wrong disorder. Just a bug in your ear. My son eas first diagnosed with bipolar and he doesnt have it so the mefs they gave him were not needed and didnt help...ugh. All those medications. And he doesnt even have it.</p><p></p><p>My son is doing great now. He had much proper intervetions after he finally got diagnosed right. </p><p></p><p>I dont know how the psychiatric/neuropsychological system works in your country. We can take our children to the professionals of our choice...maybe you cant.</p><p></p><p>Even if you cant, maybe read and see what resonates about yout daughter. Knowledge is power. Sometimes the best knowledge comes from us.</p><p></p><p>Good luck!!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 723863, member: 1550"] I dont know where you live to give you feedback for possible help...each country is different. If you were in the U.S. i would recommend a neuropsychological evaluation for her (psychologist with training in the workings of the brain) to see if Daughter was perhaps misdiagnosed. I have been a mental health patient since age 23 and I am now 64. I have no professional credentials, but I do know a laymans knowledge of certain disorders due to my own extensive research for myself and a child I have with special needs. Borderlines are normally moody, bossy, abusive, mean and then nice, and have a huge fear of abandonment. Altjough I am again no expert I never read about fear of people and socializing as a symptom. Poor boundaries, yes. Leaving relationships then begging people back, yes. Read the book "i Hate you, Dont Leave Me" (On kindle) to see if this sounds like your daughter or not. Diagnosticians are often wrong. I have had MANY tell me that since there are no blood tests, they can only guess. A psychologist from our esteemed Mayo Clinic, told me, and I quote almost exactly, "we misdiagnose all the time, even at Mayo. There is no way to know for sure. It is our best guess." Now...again I am no expert, but perhaps you should look up high functioning autism/Aspergers. My son has this. It is a social glitch and developme tal delay, although often the people are academically bright to brilliant, and the social deficits can can cause great despair. It can block the person from living a normal life, even if the person is smart. It is a disorder one is born with and great strides can be made with correct treatment. To me, not a professional, your daughter sounds more like the struggles my son had than all I have read about borderline. Perhaps...just maybe....your daughter is being treated for the wrong disorder. Just a bug in your ear. My son eas first diagnosed with bipolar and he doesnt have it so the mefs they gave him were not needed and didnt help...ugh. All those medications. And he doesnt even have it. My son is doing great now. He had much proper intervetions after he finally got diagnosed right. I dont know how the psychiatric/neuropsychological system works in your country. We can take our children to the professionals of our choice...maybe you cant. Even if you cant, maybe read and see what resonates about yout daughter. Knowledge is power. Sometimes the best knowledge comes from us. Good luck!! [/QUOTE]
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