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<blockquote data-quote="Mickey2255" data-source="post: 73344" data-attributes="member: 3720"><p>You certainly aren't alone! My son just turned 10. While it has been a struggle to get school to recognize his problems and make "appropriate" accommodations, we are getting there. I have a great examples from the first two days of school.</p><p></p><p>First day of school: My kids go to what they call "short watch". It's a free after school program where they sit on the bleachers in the gym for about 30 minutes before they go outside to be picked up at the curb by parents. It spreads out the rush of traffic I guess. Anyway, a boy who he has had many, many fights with started teasing him. He warned the kid that he was getting really angry and that he shouldn't make him mad. Even my daughter warned the kid that making her brother angry was a bad idea because he would hit him. The kid kept going and a fight broke out. The teacher in charge understood that the kid had been warned twice and knows my son fairly well. She didn't send him to the office or give any kind of discipline other than to remind him that next time he should call for her help. When I got there and found out about it, I talked to the teacher and we agreed that from now on, he will "help" the kindergardeners and pre-schoolers while they wait and make sure they have all their stuff when it's time to line up outside. Gives him a job he thinks is really important and keeps him away from the older kids that tend to tease.</p><p></p><p>Second day of school: I was approached after school by the counselor asking if I thought it would be a good idea if my son also helped the little kids in the mornings. This would allow him to walk them to their class rooms AND get to his locker a few minutes before the other kids. He has trouble at the lockers when everyone is loud and pushing and shoving to make space (he has sensory issues besides ADHD/ODD). What a great idea - and SCHOOL thought of it! It doesn't take away from learning time, gives his self-esteem a boost to help the little kids (who he is great with), and keeps him out of the locker rush.</p><p></p><p>So sit down with the teachers in the before care program, his regular class, etc., and see if you can get creative for solutions like this. Maybe he would do better with kids that are much older? Or the little ones like my son. I'm sure they would like to keep the peace as much as you would like to see your son stay out of trouble. I've been dealing with stuff like this for so many years...and what works today might not work tomorrow but be ready to offer them something to try that might help. If they at least see that you are trying to help them control your child, they are a whole lot more willing to work with you. Don't be a parent in denial that your kid is perfect - THAT will make them turn on you!</p><p></p><p>Good luck!</p><p>Michelle</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Mickey2255, post: 73344, member: 3720"] You certainly aren't alone! My son just turned 10. While it has been a struggle to get school to recognize his problems and make "appropriate" accommodations, we are getting there. I have a great examples from the first two days of school. First day of school: My kids go to what they call "short watch". It's a free after school program where they sit on the bleachers in the gym for about 30 minutes before they go outside to be picked up at the curb by parents. It spreads out the rush of traffic I guess. Anyway, a boy who he has had many, many fights with started teasing him. He warned the kid that he was getting really angry and that he shouldn't make him mad. Even my daughter warned the kid that making her brother angry was a bad idea because he would hit him. The kid kept going and a fight broke out. The teacher in charge understood that the kid had been warned twice and knows my son fairly well. She didn't send him to the office or give any kind of discipline other than to remind him that next time he should call for her help. When I got there and found out about it, I talked to the teacher and we agreed that from now on, he will "help" the kindergardeners and pre-schoolers while they wait and make sure they have all their stuff when it's time to line up outside. Gives him a job he thinks is really important and keeps him away from the older kids that tend to tease. Second day of school: I was approached after school by the counselor asking if I thought it would be a good idea if my son also helped the little kids in the mornings. This would allow him to walk them to their class rooms AND get to his locker a few minutes before the other kids. He has trouble at the lockers when everyone is loud and pushing and shoving to make space (he has sensory issues besides ADHD/ODD). What a great idea - and SCHOOL thought of it! It doesn't take away from learning time, gives his self-esteem a boost to help the little kids (who he is great with), and keeps him out of the locker rush. So sit down with the teachers in the before care program, his regular class, etc., and see if you can get creative for solutions like this. Maybe he would do better with kids that are much older? Or the little ones like my son. I'm sure they would like to keep the peace as much as you would like to see your son stay out of trouble. I've been dealing with stuff like this for so many years...and what works today might not work tomorrow but be ready to offer them something to try that might help. If they at least see that you are trying to help them control your child, they are a whole lot more willing to work with you. Don't be a parent in denial that your kid is perfect - THAT will make them turn on you! Good luck! Michelle [/QUOTE]
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