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<blockquote data-quote="Chasejazz" data-source="post: 751566" data-attributes="member: 24130"><p>My son is out in the world. I have no idea where he lives, how he lives, or how he's managing. </p><p>I try not to think think think about it because it saddens me.</p><p>I was depleted, financially, emotionally, you name it. </p><p>All the issues with the kids nearly broke me, but there's hope. And most of that has to do with time I think. </p><p>This is just a message of hope, because while I was in the middle of it, I was miserable. When I made my son leave, I was miserable. </p><p>But, as time's passed I've found a lot of joy in the smallest things that I do now regularly, such as the ceramics class I joined. I am beginning to make friends there, and enjoy the art. It's therapeutic as far as I'm concerned.</p><p>At this point, I am only able to take care of myself. I don't ever want to go back to having to make something work that's too broken. Seems sad, but I'm being honest. </p><p>Some people here go to Al-Anon, similar support groups. Others go to churches and such. </p><p>We each need to find what gives us strength as an individual, whatever works for us!</p><p>I hope you can eventually find a small piece of time and space to rediscover You.</p><p>Hopefully, your relationship with your husband will withstand the storm and as it comes to pass, when firm decisions about your son are made, you can make them together.</p><p>The things you said about your son needing this, needing that, I have heard the exact thing from my son. Over and over and over again. I gave in because he raged, and I'd done it for so long it was like a reflex.</p><p>Nowadays, I have a kind of peace for the first time in many, many years. </p><p>There are some questions I still have, as to how I will live without husband (we're divorced) and children, but I truly believe, in my situation, that it has turned out the best it can. </p><p>This is all a journey. </p><p>You have a LOT on your plate. I hope that you feel free to nurture yourself, to become self-absorbed and self-caring because you deserve it. It's so easy to get lost in all of it! Keep posting and I wish the best for you, your son and your family.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Chasejazz, post: 751566, member: 24130"] My son is out in the world. I have no idea where he lives, how he lives, or how he's managing. I try not to think think think about it because it saddens me. I was depleted, financially, emotionally, you name it. All the issues with the kids nearly broke me, but there's hope. And most of that has to do with time I think. This is just a message of hope, because while I was in the middle of it, I was miserable. When I made my son leave, I was miserable. But, as time's passed I've found a lot of joy in the smallest things that I do now regularly, such as the ceramics class I joined. I am beginning to make friends there, and enjoy the art. It's therapeutic as far as I'm concerned. At this point, I am only able to take care of myself. I don't ever want to go back to having to make something work that's too broken. Seems sad, but I'm being honest. Some people here go to Al-Anon, similar support groups. Others go to churches and such. We each need to find what gives us strength as an individual, whatever works for us! I hope you can eventually find a small piece of time and space to rediscover You. Hopefully, your relationship with your husband will withstand the storm and as it comes to pass, when firm decisions about your son are made, you can make them together. The things you said about your son needing this, needing that, I have heard the exact thing from my son. Over and over and over again. I gave in because he raged, and I'd done it for so long it was like a reflex. Nowadays, I have a kind of peace for the first time in many, many years. There are some questions I still have, as to how I will live without husband (we're divorced) and children, but I truly believe, in my situation, that it has turned out the best it can. This is all a journey. You have a LOT on your plate. I hope that you feel free to nurture yourself, to become self-absorbed and self-caring because you deserve it. It's so easy to get lost in all of it! Keep posting and I wish the best for you, your son and your family. [/QUOTE]
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