When I dropped difficult child off at school today, I handed him his back pack. He immediately said don't look in my back pack. So of course I looked. He had a long handled lighter in there, like what you use out camping. I asked him why he was taking it to school? (like that matters, but I was kinda shocked. I figured I'd find a pocket knife) He said another boy, M, dared him. I told him he could get suspended for that, it is not ok. He seemed shocked. How in the world is it shocking? He should know by now what can and cannot go to school, he has tried to take enough stuff to school. I am just so glad I found it. I may have to go back to the before school back pack checks. I am probably going to tell the teacher that difficult child tried to bring a lighter to school, and said that M dared him. I am concerned about why M wants a lighter. Is he just curious and wanted to see if difficult child would do it? Or was it something else. I am also concerned that difficult child will do anything someone tells him. This is why I am terrified of middle school. I can hear it now. I dare you to smoke this. I dare you to snort this. Uggg. I so hope that the magnet school works out, it is smaller and in a way more supervised. How can it not be a little more supervised if there are less kids? There are about 22 kids per grade, and I think they are pretty well self contained. They may go to PE or music, but they do not switch classes like most middle schools around here. They also have a big social piece, emphasis on treating others well and so on. Orientation is at the end of February, and we are going. End of story. husband, difficult child and I are all going if I have to drag them.