It's been a long time since I've been to the site but I'm checking all resources now. difficult child 1 seems to be more ODD now that he is "an adult". DVR is working with him to help him find a job -- HE is doing nothing on his own. He tried Americorps last fall but lasted 3 weeks before they asked us to come get him. He's been at home since then, doing house chores, playing video games & watching TV. We've stopped paying him an allowance for chores & told him his chores are instead of rent, that we don't HAVE to do anything for him now since he is an adult. He is permitted to sleep in the house, eat at home & get his laundry done here because we permit him to do so. He can't do a job right the first time, he feels put upon when asked to do it again correctly, every request is met with opposition (did I mention he is ODD poster boy?) & he refuses to move out. His current MO is to do his version of his assigned chores then take off on his bike to bum around with his friends, all of whom are 1-3 years younger than he. He gets home after dark & goes to his room. At least this gets him out of the house but he is putting nothing into finding jobs or positively helping with family activites. He feels we should get him an apartment if we want him to move out. He can't understand why he can't use the car to go out. He has no money to his name & feels $100 will be plenty for an apartment & food. We need to get him out of the house before he drives us all crazy. Do we dump him in a homeless shelter, find a group home that will take hime (good luck with that) or what? He's also been told he may not have weapons in the house. He used to have at least 2 pellet guns he got while living on his own last summer. They were to be in his storage locker but they have somehow found their way into our house. Now what? He'll deny he had them at home despite the fact that his brother saw at least one of them today in his room. I feel like a ninny. I want him out but I'm not sure what is the best route to take. Suggestions appreciated.