I personally have grown to have a real dislike for this holiday. I try to be understanding and realize it is a difficult time for our children, but darn, every bit of joy had been sucked out of me through the years. While my children were young I made the holidays as festive as I could while attempting to minimize my daughter's nasty behavior as much as possible. Looking back, the most peaceful holidays were when she was hospitalized. As my children grew into adulthood, my middle son has estranged himself from our family gatherings due to my daughter's erratic behavior. . It hurts like hell, but I really don't blaim him. Each holiday is like walking on pins and needles. I have made a point of hosting as I wanted my mother to have a nice holiday. Now that she is no longer with us, I just want to give up celebrating. I have begged my husband to go with me out of town. He will not. This year I attempted to make this as simple and stress free as possible. My middle son is out of town on holiday. I invited my other son and his girlfriend along with my daughter to dinner on Christmas eve. I asked that we not do gift exchanges, just have a nice meal. So there would not be any hurt feelings, my daughter who lives on SSD and has limited income came over today. I always attempt to help her out a bit more. I asked if she wanted to open a few of her gifts. She began opening them, and said they were all too large. Never even tried them on. Threw them aside, had a melt down and stormed out of the house along with her $100 gift card. She did call later and apologize, which means nothing to me, because in the end it is all my fault. This whole event has just ruined my day. I am so upset, I can not even move. I am just so over Christmas. Never again will I give her a gift. Next year, I'll throw her a 100 dollar bill and call it a day. My plans from here on out is to be out of town for the holidays. If I have to go by myself, I will. I just can not take another year of this. I have so must resent towards her. No one wants to be around her as we are all afraid of what she may say or do. How in the world do the rest of you handle the holidays?