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How do you cope when your child chooses to be homeless?
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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 630719" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>I know it is so hard to think about our own children being homeless. The first time my son was homeless, I thought I would go out of my mind. Just the word was awful.</p><p></p><p>Today, this is his fifth time to be homeless, and he has been homeless this time for nearly 2.5 weeks. There is a lot of help and assistance of all kinds for people who are homeless.</p><p></p><p>In fact, I am coming to believe there is too much help. </p><p></p><p>It is only when we are sick and tired of our own circumstances---completely and utterly sick and tired----that we decide to work for change in ourselves and for ourselves. </p><p></p><p>If being homeless is made possible by the good intentions of others, then....how will the impetus for change occur? He is falling into the safety net, every single day. Over and over again. I honestly don't think being homeless must be that bad for him. It is actually doable. </p><p></p><p>I will not buy my son things to help him stay homeless. He needs to get a job, get a place to live and start working to pay for his own necessities. </p><p></p><p>He is able to do that, he chooses not to. </p><p></p><p>He is 25 years old. I wouldn't buy his shoes if he were working---why should I buy them if he is homeless? </p><p></p><p>He is 25 years old. Way past time to take responsibility for himself. Way, way past time. </p><p></p><p>Natural consequences for his decisions. That is what I am about, today, as much as I possibly can be.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 630719, member: 17542"] I know it is so hard to think about our own children being homeless. The first time my son was homeless, I thought I would go out of my mind. Just the word was awful. Today, this is his fifth time to be homeless, and he has been homeless this time for nearly 2.5 weeks. There is a lot of help and assistance of all kinds for people who are homeless. In fact, I am coming to believe there is too much help. It is only when we are sick and tired of our own circumstances---completely and utterly sick and tired----that we decide to work for change in ourselves and for ourselves. If being homeless is made possible by the good intentions of others, then....how will the impetus for change occur? He is falling into the safety net, every single day. Over and over again. I honestly don't think being homeless must be that bad for him. It is actually doable. I will not buy my son things to help him stay homeless. He needs to get a job, get a place to live and start working to pay for his own necessities. He is able to do that, he chooses not to. He is 25 years old. I wouldn't buy his shoes if he were working---why should I buy them if he is homeless? He is 25 years old. Way past time to take responsibility for himself. Way, way past time. Natural consequences for his decisions. That is what I am about, today, as much as I possibly can be. [/QUOTE]
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