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<blockquote data-quote="Janna" data-source="post: 61093" data-attributes="member: 2737"><p>I'm not a Ross Greene fan (sorry guys). The term "verbal garbage" isn't going to get difficult child anywhere when he's older. </p><p></p><p>I feel the same as TM and Nomad, consequences need to be put in place. And, just as Nomad said, I'd ask difficult child how he feels when someone calls him a name. Bring it up to the therapist.</p><p></p><p>Something that worked for my easy child when he had his little bout with cussing (it lasted about 2 months around age 5ish; I put a Mason jar on the kitchen counter. For every hour he did NOT curse, I put a quarter in. For every time he DID curse, I took two out. Start with 4 quarters (in case you don't get to put any in to start).</p><p></p><p>On Friday, if he had money in there, I'd take him to the store and he'd spend what he had.</p><p></p><p>Know, this isn't an instant fix. It took me about 3-4 months to change two months worth of cursing. Now, at 9, he doesn't do it anymore.</p><p></p><p>Worth a shot. </p><p></p><p>Another thing I'd do, if difficult child is talking trash to the TV, turn the TV off. Just warn him first, if you can't say nice words, you can't watch TV. Give him a count. Three times, it goes off. Then count, each time he says something nasty. Just say "one". Then "two". When you get to three, say nothing, just turn off the TV, end of story.</p><p></p><p>I wouldn't just sit by and let it slide. It's never going to get better that way.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Janna, post: 61093, member: 2737"] I'm not a Ross Greene fan (sorry guys). The term "verbal garbage" isn't going to get difficult child anywhere when he's older. I feel the same as TM and Nomad, consequences need to be put in place. And, just as Nomad said, I'd ask difficult child how he feels when someone calls him a name. Bring it up to the therapist. Something that worked for my easy child when he had his little bout with cussing (it lasted about 2 months around age 5ish; I put a Mason jar on the kitchen counter. For every hour he did NOT curse, I put a quarter in. For every time he DID curse, I took two out. Start with 4 quarters (in case you don't get to put any in to start). On Friday, if he had money in there, I'd take him to the store and he'd spend what he had. Know, this isn't an instant fix. It took me about 3-4 months to change two months worth of cursing. Now, at 9, he doesn't do it anymore. Worth a shot. Another thing I'd do, if difficult child is talking trash to the TV, turn the TV off. Just warn him first, if you can't say nice words, you can't watch TV. Give him a count. Three times, it goes off. Then count, each time he says something nasty. Just say "one". Then "two". When you get to three, say nothing, just turn off the TV, end of story. I wouldn't just sit by and let it slide. It's never going to get better that way. [/QUOTE]
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