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<blockquote data-quote="SRL" data-source="post: 76216" data-attributes="member: 701"><p>Jessica, all of us here are parents. We can't diagnose but we give you or point you in directions to get the help you need with your child. Regardless of whether you wind up suspecting Asperger's Syndrome as a possibility in your daughter, I do think there's enough going on to initiate the evaluation process. There's information on how to do that listed at this link and the info is pretty much valid for a child of this age with behavioral problems you described regardless of final diagnostic outcome. Expect resistance from your pediatrician but be firm--well over half of all doctors dismiss parent concerns with this cluster of disorders, especially if the child is very bright.</p><p></p><p><a href="http://www.oreilly.com/medical/autism/news/getting_diag.html" target="_blank">http://www.oreilly.com/medical/autism/news/getting_diag.html</a></p><p></p><p>In addition, if she's started school already (Kindergarten or above) you would also be wise to start a school district evaluation going, even if she's doing well right now. This is a seperate free evaluation. It won't take the place of a private medical evaluation but it can yield some helpful data and possibly services. For instance, the school is often the best place to address social issues because the child, peers, and a specialist are all together and can coach the child in more appropriate behaviors. My child has received a lot of proactive help from the school.</p><p></p><p>Like all disorders, children with Asperger's do vary from child to child and girls are said to present slightly different from girls. It's sometimes called "Geek Syndrome" and if you think back to high school you probably knew a geeky kid who didn't have any friends or seemed out of touch and maybe was bullied. When they are young, the kids tend to have little interest in other people or when they are with others are socially very inappropriate such as demanding things go their way or talking nonstop about their own interests. Most children with Aspergers come off as very intelligent when they are young--in the long run that may or may not be true across the board academically but they usually have obsessive interests and super skills in narrow areas.</p><p></p><p>Anxiety, behavioral problems and food/odor/clothing sensitivities are very common. Many will use language in a different way than their peers--often advanced vocabularies and/or speech that sounds a little odd. They often interpret the world and the actions of others in different ways than we might consider "normal".</p><p></p><p></p><p>Often families who have a child who is diagnosed with Asperger's start looking around the family tree and find others with similar traits.</p><p></p><p>How does she come out on these questions:</p><p>Does/did the child</p><p>a. Favor objects for play that arent typically used as toys by their peers (such as wheels, sticks, magnet letters, etc.)?</p><p>b. Seem fascinated or obsessed by objects/topics that arent typical for kids of their age (such asnumbers, the alphabet, words, math, geography, mechanical things such as air conditioners or vacuum cleaners, things with motors, etc)?</p><p>c. Play differently with toys or household objects (such as spin them, line them up in straight</p><p>lines, set them up in formations, etc.)?</p><p>d. Exhibit weak or unusual pretend play skills such as act out memorized scenes from books/films/TV/DVD instead ofcreating situations and dialogue; move toy trains around but not pretend to be the engineer/go places/pick up passengers; arrange pretend people or action figures but not create imaginary situations with them or have them interact with each other, etc?</p><p>e. Display behaviors and/or routines that seem unusual or quirky?</p><p></p><p>As for handling a child with these issues, evaluation and educating yourself, and getting proper help are the keys. For instance when my child was 4 we had daily clothing battles. I didn't know anything about sensory issues but I knew we couldn't go on like that so I bought him size pairs of the pants that he had the least resistance and ditto with shirts. It didn't end the clothes wars but they were reduced significantly as he didn't have to get used to different offending textures on his skin everyday.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SRL, post: 76216, member: 701"] Jessica, all of us here are parents. We can't diagnose but we give you or point you in directions to get the help you need with your child. Regardless of whether you wind up suspecting Asperger's Syndrome as a possibility in your daughter, I do think there's enough going on to initiate the evaluation process. There's information on how to do that listed at this link and the info is pretty much valid for a child of this age with behavioral problems you described regardless of final diagnostic outcome. Expect resistance from your pediatrician but be firm--well over half of all doctors dismiss parent concerns with this cluster of disorders, especially if the child is very bright. [URL]http://www.oreilly.com/medical/autism/news/getting_diag.html[/URL] In addition, if she's started school already (Kindergarten or above) you would also be wise to start a school district evaluation going, even if she's doing well right now. This is a seperate free evaluation. It won't take the place of a private medical evaluation but it can yield some helpful data and possibly services. For instance, the school is often the best place to address social issues because the child, peers, and a specialist are all together and can coach the child in more appropriate behaviors. My child has received a lot of proactive help from the school. Like all disorders, children with Asperger's do vary from child to child and girls are said to present slightly different from girls. It's sometimes called "Geek Syndrome" and if you think back to high school you probably knew a geeky kid who didn't have any friends or seemed out of touch and maybe was bullied. When they are young, the kids tend to have little interest in other people or when they are with others are socially very inappropriate such as demanding things go their way or talking nonstop about their own interests. Most children with Aspergers come off as very intelligent when they are young--in the long run that may or may not be true across the board academically but they usually have obsessive interests and super skills in narrow areas. Anxiety, behavioral problems and food/odor/clothing sensitivities are very common. Many will use language in a different way than their peers--often advanced vocabularies and/or speech that sounds a little odd. They often interpret the world and the actions of others in different ways than we might consider "normal". Often families who have a child who is diagnosed with Asperger's start looking around the family tree and find others with similar traits. How does she come out on these questions: Does/did the child a. Favor objects for play that arent typically used as toys by their peers (such as wheels, sticks, magnet letters, etc.)? b. Seem fascinated or obsessed by objects/topics that arent typical for kids of their age (such asnumbers, the alphabet, words, math, geography, mechanical things such as air conditioners or vacuum cleaners, things with motors, etc)? c. Play differently with toys or household objects (such as spin them, line them up in straight lines, set them up in formations, etc.)? d. Exhibit weak or unusual pretend play skills such as act out memorized scenes from books/films/TV/DVD instead ofcreating situations and dialogue; move toy trains around but not pretend to be the engineer/go places/pick up passengers; arrange pretend people or action figures but not create imaginary situations with them or have them interact with each other, etc? e. Display behaviors and/or routines that seem unusual or quirky? As for handling a child with these issues, evaluation and educating yourself, and getting proper help are the keys. For instance when my child was 4 we had daily clothing battles. I didn't know anything about sensory issues but I knew we couldn't go on like that so I bought him size pairs of the pants that he had the least resistance and ditto with shirts. It didn't end the clothes wars but they were reduced significantly as he didn't have to get used to different offending textures on his skin everyday. [/QUOTE]
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